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Obsessing About OCD.

trappedinisolation
trappedinisolation
This may sound weird but then again it might not but has anyone of you ever obsessed about obsessing? I do it quite frequently.

Also, I'm kind of new here. So, hello people of the internet. I'm feeling ever so slightly awkward while posting this but I'm sure quite a few of you have felt that way.

Lately I've been really anxious about a funeral I have to attend to. I keep obsessing about the fact that I have to see people whom I haven't seen in a while and people who I don't know will want to talk to me. I don't know. Plus I don't deal with emotions really well. It makes me uncomfortable because I feel like I have to comfort them in a physical type of way when really I don't like anything remotely physical. It just makes me feel gross and dirty.

I'd like to get some of you guys's feed back.

Happy belayed St. Patrick's Day, hope none of you got pinched.

-Devin
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
well-you get to grieve in any way you like--you don't have to comfort others-you don't have to pretend anything or act in any particular way--intelligent people understand that people grieve in all kinds of ways-so don't feel like you have to act a certain way.

I have anxiety about my anxiety? does that count?
trappedinisolation
trappedinisolation
I would say yes, of course that counts. For me I obsess about my OCD due to the fact that without it I wouldn't know who I would be in a way if that makes sense. It kind of scares me and gives me the creeps. ahaha.
sr616
sr616
Hello there! I was diagnosed with OCD when I was fourteen and completely understand what you're saying. About the funeral, my mom always tells me, "to thy known self be true."

I also don't know what I'd do or be without OCD.
bethjjohnson
bethjjohnson
I say - grieve however you wish. You aren't responsible for the comfort and coping of everyone else. If you don't want to be touched, avoid getting close enough to anyone who might reach out assuming everyone needs a hug. Keeping your arms crossed might help deter them as well.

Growing up I was forced to attend many family functions (step-family, that is) and was constantly surrounded by people who didn't know me and didn't really want to get to know me but were being forced out of family obligation to talk to me anyway.

It was so frustrating and so uncomfortable. I really didn't care about being there and it ruined a lot of holidays for me.

I know it's not the same as a funeral, but I know how you feel regarding all the people and not knowing how to interact with them. Just be yourself and do what you have to do and you'll get through it. It's one event and it'll be over before you know it.

Regarding obsessing over obsessing? That's very normal for people with anxiety disorders. I have anxiety thinking about my anxiety. I worry sometimes that if it gets bad again, it'll ruin the good things I have going right now, and sometimes it starts to spin out of control. That's the part of the terrible anxiety cycle we all have to work on breaking.

Try reminding yourself: There's nothing wrong with you, you can't control the bad things that happen in life, all you can do is try to be happy and hope for the best.

It's tough, but you're tough too, you can totally overcome it. Good luck at the funeral. I hope some of this was helpful.