Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
It was pointed out to me by a close co-worker that he felt like I reacted to my adult daughter's behavior because of events that took place when she was younger that I never had a chance to deal with. I do have a therapy appointment this coming week to start the process but really on a daily basis have no one to talk to because this has burned everyone out. My daughter at 16 attempted suicide by swallowing Xanax that she was prescribed for anxiety, at 17 she overdosed on heroin laced with another drug by her then boyfriend and I gave her CPR to save her life. From 16 even up till now my life has revolved around "helping" her or "saving" her. Trouble seemed to follow her even when she was not directly involved in the event. Someone once told me she could help it but I think she can. Examples of some of the trouble she was involved included- smoking weed in my car and getting busted, allowing a boyfriend to drive my car and crashing it into a park car and running from the scene because he said to run, to even now making bad friend choices leading to drama. She has remained clean this entire time but believes she can save everyone and this impacts my life. Her behavior and personality is very unpredictable. She can be the nicest person but also can be the biggest asshole. Her baseline form of communication with me is either sarcasm or screaming. The last screaming event forced me to leave work so the neighbors did not call the police because that is how loud she was screaming on the phone. This is when my friend said would you react this way if all of these past events had not happened?
I guess I will stop here and see what advice people can offer me.
thank you
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Sigh. . . Why can't life be simple? ? ?
I don't know where any of that fits in for my case, either, but I feel a bit better when I keep trying. DS has allot of forums available. I just keep posting around until I find a fit that resonates for whichever snot knot I am wrestling with in any given round.
Welcome to DS, Harley. Hope you find healing companionship here.
probably doesn't think anything is wrong with her she won't. You
Need to get therapy to learn the best way to deal with her. Also,
journaling you thoughts and feelings has helped a lot of people.
Can you look for a parent support group that deals with difficult
adult children.? Your therapist or local mental health organization
might help you find a group. Good luck. I know this is very difficult.
I don't have kids but I have a brother with mental health problems.
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It is not easy. But often we have to let them suffer the consequences from their bad choices.
It sounds like she needs drug rehab.
Take a moment and separate that long paragraph into specific sentences. This will show you the pattern of behavior, response, and give you a better objective view.
Then, figure out how you want to respond for your well-being, and practice your responses until you are comfortable (standing in front of a mirror and checking your facial appearance, the breathing, and holding your shoulders back with head up and using this when you feel overwhelmed will help you remain calm).
You are NOT responsible for what your daughter says, does, or responds. You are responsible for what you say and do. Put your well-being first. Being in a better balance will help you help her, and not taking on her problems as yours is important.
When a person is in a cycle of behavior that is destructive, in order to construct a positive cycle, that person has to accept their actions themselves. As hard as it is to do this, it is the first step.
Welcome to DS!
Best wishes.
I see the therapist on Tuesday and will start keeping a journal.
Keep us posted on how the therapy progresses.
Glad I am reading this link. My daughter is 30 is bipolar is on med probably not correct meds. Has major dental issues. Fear of driving low self estem and is as negative as a person can ever be. I try to be there for her but I get shit in in the end. Now she is mad at me and says I don't every want your help. She is so helpless I know only she can help herself and I just dont she that happening. She pushed the people closest to her away. I am stressed????,
I had my first therapy session and it went well. It is not that I don't already know that I have a co-dependent relationship with my daughter but it is good to hear someone validate it exists. The therapist is going to start working with me set some much needed boundaries.