Hi there dear. I have experienced that also where I get so anxious and panicky when my partner doesn't call/text me. It is a very teenager thing.

Im guilty of that and I think the best thing you can do right now is go get busy as much as you could and get more involved with your friends/family.

Getting active might help too like getting involved in extra curricular activities. Read and watch motivation videos may help you inspire as well. ;)

Welcome to the stressful world of dating. It is very common for either or both people to stress out over waiting to hear back from the other person, etc. If you have anxiety and depression, it can be that much harder. And speaking as someone much older than you, it doesn't necessarily get any easier with age. A lot of us have abandonment issues, or we simply can't cope well with having to wait. As a retired teacher, I also got nervous when a new semester would begin after break. You however are much smarter than I was at your age because you are in touch with your issues whereas I didn't have the slightest clue. I pray that you have a good semester and you are able to handle having a boyfriend with a minimum of stress.

Thank you, I'll try that from now and keep myself distracted

@M.1008 what are you doing about your anxiety and depression. Are you getting any type of support for that such as counseling or support groups? I suspect the anxiety and depression that is being triggered by an anticipated text is pointing to a more deeper issue. For me, my anxiety flowed from issues of abandonment, identity and rejection. I agree with some of the posters that say staying busy can help but the problem with business is that it's only a distraction that doesn't do much to get at the root source of our anxiety. It's great that you are on this forum and is seeking help early. The sooner you start addressing the root causes of your anxiety and depression, when more difficult things of life begin to happen as you become older you will have a more healthy way to cope. I would love to hear more about how you are addressing or anxiety and depression. Here's a link to some articles that may help. http://anxietynetwork.com/

@M.1088 I applaud you for reaching out for help! I have too struggled with anxiety and panic attacks, so I know how overwhelming those emotions become. I really liked the suggestion that @justaaveraggurl gave you regarding getting to the root of the anxiety surrounding your boyfriend's lack of responses via text/calling. I feel like addressing underlying fears surrounding not hearing from him can help. For example, when my husband doesn't call or text me back, sometimes I worry that he is hurt or in danger. I then notice that fear and challenge it. I think, "Well, his meeting probably ran over." Which is more likely than him being hurt or in danger. I then use some relaxation techniques like mindful breathing to help my body and mind calm down. I hope that you find some relief soon! Take care of yourself.

Drugs are my friend. Sorry, but I think an antianxiety medication can, if you use it wisely and don't just make it part of your lifestyle, teach you how people function when they don't have anxiety. and you can then say 'oh, people don't worry about this'. Some do, some don't - and your boyfriend either likes clingy and anxious (if he himself has self esteem issues) or finds it a bit cloying and hard to take sometimes.

People often live in the real world, and don't reply to texts immediately. They are functioning where they are with the people they are with. It's a living style I guess. A good one. I used to be like that.

I think you have to gauge the guy himself, and not drive him away by being overanxious (which can end up quite controlling) or conversely by being too laid back.

What do I think? I think if you are in a place where you can enjoy him when he's around, and enjoy other things when he's not, then you're getting somewhere.

But that takes a lot of work.