Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Hello...im cory im in a long distance realtionship which is prolly coming to a dreadful end my girlfriend lauressa wants sex and physical affection niether i can give to her due to the distance between us im prolly putting this in the wrong support group and im sorry im scared shes gonna leave me cause she wants a open relationship now and i dont want that shes been ignoring me all day so far and it hurts and makes me really depressed she means A LOT to me we have a instagram called clauressa_best_ship you can go look at it and see that i love her and ive reached out for help and tried working things out with her and i feel the end coming...
It sounds as though you are frustrated by not being able to meet the requests of your girlfriend, due to the long distance. You really care about her and suspect she is going to leave you because her desires aren't being met. You also mention she hasn't been interacting with you today. That must be incredibly frustrating knowing what you could do to repair the relationship, but feeling incapable of doing so because you are too far away. It is no lie that long distance relationships are hard! My husband and I started out long distance for the first eight months of our relationship and have been forced to do long distance throughout our marriage due to extensive job trainings that keep us apart for months at a time. It is awful and heartbreaking to not be physically close to the one you love.
While I am not you and do not know the inner workings of your relationship, I know it can help sometimes to conduct a sort of "reality check." Are any of the concerns you're having a result of your mind mulling over the worst case scenarios? Do your fears about her leaving you and wanting an open relationship stem from her actually saying those things? Do you have solid reason to believe she will leave you? If she were to hear you say those things would she be surprised or would she admit they are things she has considered?
A lack of physical intimacy can cause a couple to feel emotionally disconnected at times. What other ways might you be able to create intimacy? For some people that might be talking about their hopes and dreams for their future together. For other people it might mean sharing vulnerable feelings and feeling validated by the other person. For others it might mean spicing up your phone calls and texts with sexual conversations or images.
What are YOUR needs in the relationship? How can you both problem solve to creatively come up with ways for both of your needs to be met? As in every relationship, long distance relationships can be WORK, but learning to communicate through the challenges in this experience will equip you both with the tools to manage relational conflict in the future. There's a silver lining right there: Long distance relationships force you to communicate, helping you develop the language and ability to work through challenges, cause every relationship has 'em!
Your last sentence stands out to me: "I feel the end coming." A very real possibility in every dating relationship. Even if we don't want a relationship to end, we can't control the feelings or decision of another person. While this event produces one of the single worst feelings a person can ever experience, it doesn't mean we have to wait in anticipation of it. You likely have other relationships, commitments, hobbies, and events going on in your life outside your relationship with Lauressa. Lean into them, love yourself well, and trust in this experience as one of the many that will shape you and help you grow in one way or another.