Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I moved into my own place this past fall and had a hard time adjusting to being alone so I got a kitten. My fianc recently moved in (we had a long distance relationship). He dosnt like cats but was ok with me getting one.
My kitten is a brat on a daily basis and it makes it hard on me. I feel almost protective and overly attached to him because he was always with me for 5-6 months. So when he is a brat and my fianc disciplines him I have a hard time. I feel like he is being mean. But the cat can't get in the sink and lick the dishes, get on the kitchen table or climb the curtains and snag them. He never hurts the cat he pretty much dosnt let him in the kitchen and scares him if he climbs the curtains.
I don't know why this creates so much anxiety for me. I don't want the cat on the counter or in the sink and I don't want him to climb the curtains. I stopped him from doing all of that when I was here alone but I think I let him get away with it more than I should have.
Also the cat LOVES him he alway goes and rubs up against him and dosnt fear him at all. My fianc plays with him and makes loud noises and the cat hides but comes right back out ready to play and see what's going on.
How do I relax and not cause problems in my relationship when the cat shouldn't be doing the things he is doing?
My kitten is a brat on a daily basis and it makes it hard on me. I feel almost protective and overly attached to him because he was always with me for 5-6 months. So when he is a brat and my fianc disciplines him I have a hard time. I feel like he is being mean. But the cat can't get in the sink and lick the dishes, get on the kitchen table or climb the curtains and snag them. He never hurts the cat he pretty much dosnt let him in the kitchen and scares him if he climbs the curtains.
I don't know why this creates so much anxiety for me. I don't want the cat on the counter or in the sink and I don't want him to climb the curtains. I stopped him from doing all of that when I was here alone but I think I let him get away with it more than I should have.
Also the cat LOVES him he alway goes and rubs up against him and dosnt fear him at all. My fianc plays with him and makes loud noises and the cat hides but comes right back out ready to play and see what's going on.
How do I relax and not cause problems in my relationship when the cat shouldn't be doing the things he is doing?
The kitten really did like her but was just a little rough. How she broke the cat of this behavior was she got a water pistol. When the cat became an attack cat she would give him a couple of squirts of water. This calmed his behavior down really quick.
Maybe that might be an easier way to train your cat to stay out of the dishes and off of the curtains.
I know this is minor compared to a lot of things people are anxious over but this is very real to me and I just can't let go of the anxiety. It just comes back.
I think he is bored cause he is an indoor cat. I need more to keep him busy.