Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Jersey_of_Oz 03/22/2017

I remember the call from a substitue school nurse. She called because my son had just left the nurses office andthey are supposed to notify parents in some way when the kids have been to visit them. She told me that my son was there because he had a panic attack and that according to the nurses notes this was the third he had had since the start of the year, and we were less than 2 months in.

He was in Kindergaten. He explained that it was like a monster in his stomach trying to get out - clawing at him - messing up his stomach and his mind. He was in Kindergarten.

My daughter was in kindergarten when she had her first. It was my fault. We were driving and my husband and I were fighting. All of a sudden she started breathing irregular and crying and screaming she can't breath - her chest doesn't work. I pulled over and didn't talk to my husband the rest of the day.

My mother has agora phobia and generalized anxiety disorder. All of her siblings take anxiety medication. When things where I used to live got all messed up, I started taking celexa. I still take it, but not like I should.

I get mad at myself that I am the cause of my children's anxiety problems. My family. My poor parenting. All I can do now is try to be forgiven for these sins that I have made and these problems I have caused.

I love my kids. Maybe one day they will forgive me for these things and I might be able to forgive myself.

Every time I hear "The Lords Prayer" that is the part that is missing. Forgive as we forgive others in is there, but what about how we forgive ourselves?

:) Susie

bullito 03/22/2017

if it has something to do with the genetics it is not something you can blame yourself for. think of all the happy moments they have had. of how even the "bad" moments help them build character. my sister died the other day. she was 66. lived in New York most of her life. loved the city, hated the cold. had to struggle. some days were probably unhappy. maybe a lot of her days were unhappy. but she would not have given up on life. i have 3 kids. the relationship with my wife went sideways and sometimes we fought in front of the kids which is very bad. see if you can agree with your husband to remind yourselves every night to never fight in front of the kids. my youngest daughter turned 23 yesterday. as do I she has problems sleeping, anxiety, some paranoia and contemplated suicidal thoughts since she was 12. that Christmas she was sitting/crouching next to the Christmas tree and used to ask for help. my wife and I could not get in the same page with her. she wanted to avoid medication at all costs I could not bear to see her in pain. there were two things going on, bullying and the onset of her period. we changed her to another school but other behaviors kept popping up. mind you. in the new school which was specialized in theater she had very good moments. but then you swing from being to permissive to enough is eno0ugh and a clash of wills and fighting that really never amounts to anything. right now she is going thru a rough patch when she goes bipolar i try as much as I can to deflect conflict. and maybe that is not good but neither can it be when she and her mother start fighting and screaming and purposely hurting each others feelings. I have to finish this advice somehow. Be watchful. do not fight in front of them. give much thought to the fine line between discipline and friendship/buddy/facilitator/ i just want to make your life easier. do not blame yourself. they cannot be better off with anyone else but their parents. you are the best they've got. never give up on them and always be there for them. may the unity between you and your husband grow stronger bless you

djchurn 03/22/2017

You have given a boatload of things that will give your life issues. Find something that you can be successful with and focus on that. In my opinion you should regard you children as a gift in your life and work toward providing a stable environment. If that means your going to therapy to learn how to be a better parent, so be it. Do not overthink everything because you do not have a support structure to tell you when you are straying.

LastAcorn99 03/23/2017

Aww…I can imagine how overwhelming this must be for you, friend. I would strongly encourage you to seek the help of a counselor for yourself, and your children. I’ll be praying that God will reach down and put His loving arms around you and strengthen you in the coming days. ((Hugs))

4nkrgg 03/27/2017

There isn’t a way for us to forgive ourselves and try to make things right on our own. Biblical forgiveness is acknowledging that we are sinners and asking for His forgiveness. It’s what non-believers must acknowledge, too (that they are sinners) to be forgiven and what believers ask for when they transgress (intentionally sin). Sin is the barrier that keeps us separated from God. And asking for forgiveness restores our relationship with Him.
When His Word fills our hearts and minds it becomes our trustworthy guide for daily life. It shows us the consequences of sin; yet, it also reveals His unconditional love for us. His love isn’t based on what we do or don’t do. Just as parents love their children regardless of their behavior, so the Lord continually loves His children. The Bible contains the answers to every problem, situation, or concern we have. It is relevant today, but we must be faithful to read it each day. Then we’ll know what to do. May God bless you and your family.

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