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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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My anxiety gets worse at night!!

staceypin
staceypin
I have trouble relaxing, scared to go back to work.. I listen to 20 different relaxatio cd's to try to relax.. 17 days smoke free, 18 months with no alcohol... My friends tell me to go back to work it will help me.. but I don't think they understand.. they tell me it will get my mind off of my anxiety! Just scared cause I am a flight attendant and I am suppose to fly to Lima ,Peru!!!Have trouble making decisions!!! I haven't work in 3 weeks!! Any advice??
Pandylove
Pandylove
I'm not good at giving advice to people who get stuck in a rut due to anxiety- because i stay in my little hole away from the world, I do what my anxiety,depression, phobias, ect tell me too do. However i never get better, so that tells me people are right when they say to get out there and face it. I admit i do feel a little better when i do get out. If your job gives you that much trouble, maybe look for another career in which you might feel a little more comfortable.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Been exactly here...yep.

There's a way out...I promise. Let's discuss this...
deleted_user
deleted_user
"I have trouble relaxing" Just by putting that thought in your mind and dwelling on it will keep it. Tell your self " I know hoe to relax. I enjoy relaxing. . I know how to take care of m emotional and physical needs, I enjoy my positive thoughts, I have total confidence in my ability ton heal myself, My mood is calm and relaxeed, I can cope well and get on with my life during times of stress, I deserve to feel good right now., I feel peaceful and calm, My breathing is slow and calm., I feel grounded and fully present, I am pleased with how I handle my emotional needs, I fill my mind with positive and self nourishing thoughts.

Then imagine you are a big oak tree. Your body is the trunk . It is big, solid and can withstand any storm, your legs are the roots and they go on for miles and they are well grounded in the earth. You feel stron and well grounded.

You will know when you are ready to go back to work. In the meantime work on you. Don't let negative thoughts enter your head. If they do keep reocurring challenge them. Like: I can't relax. change it to, of course I can relax. I will do 1., 2., and 3, and relax. Or I am having trouble breathing, challenge it by telling yourself. Ok it is just the anxiety, I probably need to relax, breathing just happens, I won't just stop breathing. And if I do, so be it. Get the idea. Hope this helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes the idea of relaxation can induce anxiety. If you feel there is something left undone, or you are fearful of things in general...you feel you can't relax...that it would be dangerous.

You may also equivocate relaxation with laziness...which it isn't.