Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I tried to go to bed at about five thirty and I couldn't because my anxiety started up, I'm just worried and stressed about a lot of things.. We almost lost our power yesterday afternoon.. I haven't been eating well (or consistently eating healthy meals).. I've been overdoing it on sweets and being generally negative, i let myself get into these bad moods and refuse to think anything is good.. This week has been really hard and emotional for a lot of reasons.. But i keep doing things I know will put me in a bad mood, It's like I'm a glutton for punishment... I'm paranoid about my friends disliking me for this or that even if I know I am jumping the gun and assuming SO much stuff... I used to actually voice concerns to people I was scared would hate me but I don't do that anymore because i'll either feel like a fool for thinking things that weren't true or that they are lying and actually DO and think those things.
I feel like my friend is avoiding me, He is awkward and short with me and hasn't really been interacting with me the same way which makes me wonder if i did anything wrong, But i'm too nervous to bring it up.. I dunno.. Does anyone know of any way to stop the nasty habit of being so negative and only seeing the bad things in life? Also i hold a LOT of emotions in, Like i barely EVER talk to anyone about my problems and I know it's bad because it's led to pretty bad panic attacks in the past.. I just don't know how to talk to people.. I don't know how to find the words and I feel/think they won't care if i come to them with problems.. The full moon just ended and it's always been something that effects my mood, coupled with stress and a pretty poor diet (I've been doing better, but still.)
I need help, i need advice.. I just don't like feeling like I have so many problems and little hope to solve them.
I feel like my friend is avoiding me, He is awkward and short with me and hasn't really been interacting with me the same way which makes me wonder if i did anything wrong, But i'm too nervous to bring it up.. I dunno.. Does anyone know of any way to stop the nasty habit of being so negative and only seeing the bad things in life? Also i hold a LOT of emotions in, Like i barely EVER talk to anyone about my problems and I know it's bad because it's led to pretty bad panic attacks in the past.. I just don't know how to talk to people.. I don't know how to find the words and I feel/think they won't care if i come to them with problems.. The full moon just ended and it's always been something that effects my mood, coupled with stress and a pretty poor diet (I've been doing better, but still.)
I need help, i need advice.. I just don't like feeling like I have so many problems and little hope to solve them.
As for your friend avoiding you, I would probably give it some time. I tend to be *very* paranoid and oversensitive when it comes to relationships with other people. He could just be in a bad mood or something. If it doesn't get better, ask him about it, but I would probably wait a little longer.
Negative thinking is a big issue with anxiety, at least for me. I have been trying to find something positive in everything I feel anxiety about. For example, if I have a college final I would think about how great it will feel afterwards to be done, rather than thinking about the anxiety I will feel during the test. It can actually be very helpful!
Good luck to you! Sorry I couldn't offer more advice, but I am still figuring this all out myself.
It takes effort and energy to be consistent and do and think positively. to adopt a healthy and positive lifestyle.
I am the same with eating healthy and exercise. I can be taking care of myself and doing well but then I slip back to old habits.
I can be motivated to be positive and change my ways but then the motivation and the energy and the fight begins to wane and I lose motivation.
Maybe deep down we do not feel that we deserve to be well and happy. i don't know.
I am too exhausted to try and analyze why I do the things I do but I am sure self love and acceptance and letting go is all part of the parcel. Oh and trusting. trusting is a big thing. trusting ourselves, trusting others. We may have very valid reasons why it is difficult to trust other people. We go by previous experiences and we fear of not being taken seriously, fear of being ridiculed, rejected...and so on. And that is why we do not find it easy to open up to someone. If we are to open up to someone that person has to be trustworthy. Who has real true friends like that?
Who has loyal friends who are accepting and are there for us? If we had someone like that we most probably wouldn't need a therapist.
Control is another issue that we probably have a problem with. We want to control things that is out of our control and it is hard for some of us to accept that and to just let go. we can't control losing a job, getting an illness, car breaking down, decisions that other people make, and so on....we can't control any of it.
If we all surrendered and just let go. I am sure we would have less anxiety, perhaps even no anxiety.
It really does take tremendous effort to change mindsets. negative thinking patterns, negative self talk.
I can only suggest is to get up on the horse and try again.
To help combat negative thoughts. Maybe write down each day something positive and good about your day.
A Gratitude journal or writing in a gratitude thread may help.
I go to a couple here at DS.
Keeping a gratitude journal won't necessarily solve the problems we have going on in our lives. it doesn't solve financial issues, relationships, work problems and so on. BUT it helps us to see that the glass is not always empty. It is half full or even a lot fuller than we tend to see it.
You have to dig deep sometimes to find positive things. It doesn't always come easy to us.
We may have experience a whole lot of shit in our lives and crappy things have happened to us and that is how we perceive life.
but we can find good things. they are all around us. small things..each day.
we just need to remember to open our hearts, our eyes and ears and we will become more positive with practice. it takes practice.
I have actually been able to fight this one. I did talk to a friend about this and realized the truth. It wasn't real.