I don't know your situation, but I would check what resources are available in your community. Check on what benefits you can receive, such as food stamps or state health plans. Also, there may be support groups for single parents. My sister went through the same thing as you, and she stayed worried. Things just finally came together for her, as it will for you. Good luck!!!

I went through a very messy divorce when my son was four years old..It was without a doubt one of the most difficult times in my life. It took years to heal the wounds. But my ex-wife and I have been close friends for many years now. Give it some time and stay focused

llmt..anytime you wish to talk just send me a private message.

Whenever I'm consumed with anxiety I think of something that makes me smile and happy. For example, I think of my son pitching during his baseball game. It makes me so proud and I enjoy living through him. It helps me get my mind off my negative thoughts.

As for help, you have any friends or family nearby that you can spend some time with and possibly get some support while you're going through this tough time. Sometimes just having someone to confide in could help you out.

Hope things get better for you soon!

You might want to sit yourself down and have a nice chat. Fact is, you are normal. The anxiety overwhelms you and floods your mind with thoughts of "Oh no, I'm a mess, how will I go on?" etc. Perfectly normal during an upsetting time and particularly during a divorce or the death of a loved one.

One thing you might say to yourself during your chat is "I can do this." And repeat it throughout the day. Another thing that is helpful during anxiety is writing. It makes you objective. It is impossible to write without being objective and when you are objective your perspective changes which enables you to examine your inner thoughts. The reason I suggest this is that your inner thoughts are what causes your anxiety.

We all have an inner monologue talking to us constantly. When this monologue is negative and filled with self-sabotaging "Oh no", "I'm a mess", "How can I go on?", etc, your brain wires itself accordingly. It's simple brain chemistry.

There is a cute little movie named "What the Bleep do We Know?"
It's entertaining and very informative about how the brain chemistry wires the brain and makes us who we are. The good news is simple and the most important thing you need to remember is this: If you become aware of your self-sabotaging inner monologue and the negative, fearful bullshit that it is saying over and over and over again, you are then in a position to DISPUTE IT. Dispute the negative with rational positive arguments.

It is a good idea to do this with pen and paper. Draw a line down the center of a sheet of paper and on the left side write down the self-talk that makes you anxious. On the right side write down your rational positive argument. If you do this habitually, your inner monologue will soon become rational and positive and the chemistry in your brain changes and the brain begins to rewire itself creating a new you.

http://gavas.com/ANXIETY_DEPRESSION.htm

Here you'll find all the self-sabotaging inner monologues that cause us symptoms. Pay special attention to "Load of Crap Number 6" and all the others that describe your negative thinking. Learn them and learn the arguments and DISPUTE, DISPUTE, DISPUTE. And begin by telling yourself several times a day: "I can do this" and "I have the tools to beat anxiety and depression."

Anxiety and depression are curable and WE, OURSELVES are the best medicine to make it happen.

Heaven's Peace

I take trazodone for my insomnia (when it flares up) and it works great! You don't become dependent on it like you do ssri's , and there's no withdrawal symptoms. Give it a try! I take 25/50 mg at bedtime when I cannot sleep and wake refreshed and ready for the day!

Excellent advice, Scrooge, and your link is phenominal. Your mention of "What the Bleep do We Know" really got my attention. I haven't thought about that show in years. I do think it is a great show for all to watch, whether or not they suffer symptoms of anxiety and/or depression. Marlee Matlin does a wonderful job and your description of "cute" is spot on. I strongly recommend this movie and yes, everyone, the brain actually does physically rewire itself according to our "inner monologue" as Scrooge so expertly described it. Change that "monologue" and we change our lives!