Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Got married in 1995. My dad said it was the worst mistake of my life, yet I specifically went to him and asked his blessing to get engaged, which he gave. So why not say something THEN??? Years into the marriage, I gained a little weight. Not a lot. Still very attractive, just enough to make me feel self- conscious as I have always been very athletic, and even a lifeguard for a swimming pool. I think that my husband got jealous, and he just started taking me out to eat all the time at the best restaurants. I wanted to be good company, so I went on all these wonderful dates for years and years and years, until I started to notice my waistline showing up. Now, I almost wish that I was just single, eating tiny portions in my old apartment overlooking the city!!! This is where anxiety steps into the picture. I just want calm. I just want to go swimming every day like when I was a lifeguard, and not worry about my weight. I want a picture perfect home! I have no children. I am unable. Now, I am getting old. I just want the house to be clean every day and I clean every day. I actually want to move, but my husband says that's fine, let's wait until 2017, when things will be better for the sale of our home, etc. OK, so there is a point. Swimming helped me relax, and reduce anxiety, my ENTIRE life. Now I don't have that, and finding out life's not a beach. Can anyone relate, or does anyone have any advice? Thanks!! Mil.
You are an adult and there were three candles in my marriage ceremony. One for each of us to light first, and then we lit the third together. The first two represented our individual needs and taking care ourselves and then the third is the united of the two of us together.
I like the symbolism of the way I remember/think of it's meanings. It is not that we are united at all times. We need to take care of ourselves first and then we can unite. This is a constant.
You are an adult and if your individual needs are not met, then what are you bringing to the united times? Anxiety, worry, dissatisfaction... Your flame is dwindling to when you unite. And it seems you know what to do to feel like the best you. Wow, what so many would give to just know the answer for themselves to soothe their being.
You are an adult and can go swimming to relax. This is a healthy choice! Without it... those feelings you are having now, may turn into unhealthier things, like resentments, for one.
This is want I need to do for my well being and our marriage will benefit from it too. And as far as feeling self-conscious in a swim suit, most people are thinking of themselves and you are there to swim for you. And I know I would be thinking, wow, what dedication and skills she has, and you would be a motivation for me to find what I need for my well being, physically, mentally and emotionally. And wow, you may have found just one natural way to achieve most of this with one healthy activity! Go for it, you beautiful lady!