Anxiety Support Group
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I originally posted this in a different support group, but that group doesn't get a lot of traffic and I figured my problem greatly affects me in terms of adding anxiety.
Hey, everyone, I'm an 18-year-old male currently standing at a whopping 5'4. (If I'm standing straight as a pole) I have lived my life always being the small guy, and I have to say it has really affected my mental state. I feel so inferior to people because physically I'm literally looked down upon. It makes me want to shut myself in and never come out. i always held out hope that I would grow since middle school. I dreamed of being 5'7, but unfortunately, that never happened. I feel really bad because I started weightlifting at like 12 (Not hardcore, but still), I started wrestling my 8th-grade year of middle school, and I started having sleeping problems my sophomore year of high school. I have this strong fear that I may have caused my current short height, and that thought really eats me up. I often pause what I'm doing throughout the day to ruminate over my height and how it affects how people look at me.
I tend to fall into some periods of really bad mood and insecurity. I even dislike being around my family, because my dad has a good 3 inches on me and that makes me wonder why I didn't grow to his size, It makes me feel robbed. I only stand over my mom by about 2-3 inches and that makes me extremely insecure. My brother is catching up and he's like 1-2 inches shorter than me. My height honestly makes me feel deformed and an automatic outcast. I try to keep up a positive attitude, but it's so hard when it's in front of my face every single day.
I understand there are people who are even shorter than me, and that I should be happy that I'm not any shorter, but that logical statement doesn't really resonate in my bones. My emotions overpower it and I end up feeling terrible. Maybe I'm just taking all my problems in life and attributing it to this one factor, I don't know. I accept that I'm probably not going to get any taller. All I want... is a little support.
I appreciate anything anybody has to say.
Hey, everyone, I'm an 18-year-old male currently standing at a whopping 5'4. (If I'm standing straight as a pole) I have lived my life always being the small guy, and I have to say it has really affected my mental state. I feel so inferior to people because physically I'm literally looked down upon. It makes me want to shut myself in and never come out. i always held out hope that I would grow since middle school. I dreamed of being 5'7, but unfortunately, that never happened. I feel really bad because I started weightlifting at like 12 (Not hardcore, but still), I started wrestling my 8th-grade year of middle school, and I started having sleeping problems my sophomore year of high school. I have this strong fear that I may have caused my current short height, and that thought really eats me up. I often pause what I'm doing throughout the day to ruminate over my height and how it affects how people look at me.
I tend to fall into some periods of really bad mood and insecurity. I even dislike being around my family, because my dad has a good 3 inches on me and that makes me wonder why I didn't grow to his size, It makes me feel robbed. I only stand over my mom by about 2-3 inches and that makes me extremely insecure. My brother is catching up and he's like 1-2 inches shorter than me. My height honestly makes me feel deformed and an automatic outcast. I try to keep up a positive attitude, but it's so hard when it's in front of my face every single day.
I understand there are people who are even shorter than me, and that I should be happy that I'm not any shorter, but that logical statement doesn't really resonate in my bones. My emotions overpower it and I end up feeling terrible. Maybe I'm just taking all my problems in life and attributing it to this one factor, I don't know. I accept that I'm probably not going to get any taller. All I want... is a little support.
I appreciate anything anybody has to say.
Firstly: your height is not an impediment in your life. Think Tom Cruise. How you feel about it though, definitely is. Imagine a depressed tom cruise trying to get work. It wouldn't happen.
You can't change how tall you are, so all you can do is change how you feel about it.
That's more of a journey.
I recommend antidepressants just because to get happy with your body you have to get the things you want out of life, eg girlfriends and jobs, regardless of the body. But you can't get out of the hole of being depressed about your body, so you can't ignore it, so you can't get out there and have a good time...
unless you do something to break out of that closed loop.
So I think something like antidepressants, with counselling as well. but really, winning at life will make this go away, so you need to become committed to winning at life despite any feelings you might have about your height.
My boss is I think about 5'2". I think he's fantastic. you don't have to be tall to make the girls like you.