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I feel like its my fault

lifesucks_17
lifesucks_17

So I just found out that my uncle has been sexually abusing my cousin all these years. I cried myself to sleep over it cause I didnt know that was the reason she had been so angry all these years and i feel horrible for being rude to her back. She gotten better but when i look at her pictures, she looks so lifeless, like all the joy has been sucked out of her. It breaks my heart to see her like that and know that she got something taken away from her: her innocence by her own dad! And to top it off no one believes her but my mom. My mom saved her and my mom saved me when my dad was abusing me too. I know exactly how she feels but I never wanted HER to feel that way. If i could i would take all the pain away from her and put it all on me. Shes 17 and I look up to her very much! My mom and her are my world! My mom, my cousin, and I have all been sexually abused by our fathers so I come from a line of sick bastards. I dont know what to do... I just feel like its my fault.....

Tired
Tired
It is not your fault. The only thing you can do now is be kind to your
cousin. Maybe one day you can talk to her about both your experiences.
And you can help each other. Give her time if she doesn't want to talk now.
arfie
arfie
Hello Life. Welcome to the forum. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

Wow! ! ! That's a heavy duty bomb shell! ! ! I'd be checking you for a pulse if you weren't reacting in unpredictable ways. That is quite a heavy chunk to process. Easy does it. There is no way to process a chunk that big in a single day.

Getting your emotions, etc., into words and sharing those words can help with the sorting. I hope you feel safe doing that here. Welcome aboard.

Listening. . .
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
There are orgnazations help abuses families. You can find their numbers online. There are groups for abused people.
Bluejay96
Bluejay96
Tell her how much she means to you. She needs the encouragement.

So glad your mom is such a strong woman!
Captain-M
Captain-M
To Life. OMG that's horrible!! Well it takes courage to open up to public forums. Kudos! You are not at fault. Having a good talk with mom is good start. You are not alone. At least you have at least someone to talk to. I agree with Peter. Keeping emotions bottled up is not good. Same with your cousin. Talk to her. There is no substitute for communication. Baby steps, and don't get overwhelmed. You've passed the first hurdle. Regards.
lifesucks_17
lifesucks_17
Bluejay96 Thank U I know she is!!
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