Anxiety Support Group
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I told mom not to call me so often because constantly hearing about her troubles and her pain was upseting me. So she didnt. She had called me Tuesday when I told her that. Then started getting tence, and a bit anxious on Thursday when she didnt call. Buy Friday afternoon I was real anxious and tence. Had not expected her to really do what I said.
I was thinking: Is she still managing with the strong pain she has? Did she go to the hospital? Always before I get a call if she was in hospital. Whats going on over there?
I called her a few minutes ago. She was managing and had not called because I asked her not to.
Need suggestions.
Barbara
I was thinking: Is she still managing with the strong pain she has? Did she go to the hospital? Always before I get a call if she was in hospital. Whats going on over there?
I called her a few minutes ago. She was managing and had not called because I asked her not to.
Need suggestions.
Barbara
I too went through the same problem. I'd call her to chat and she would gravitate toward her pain and meds that she has to take, how tired she is all the time, stomach issues, etc.
After a while, I just couldn't handle it anymore and stopped calling her. And because of the negative feedback cycle, she would become depressed and never call me.
Eventually, I spoke to my therapist about it and he said it pretty plainly: just tell her that it's hard for you to hear about her pain and make it clear that you'd prefer not to talk about it unless she needs your help with it.
I followed his advice and from then on, my mom and I had very meaningful and fulfilling conversations.
That was the strategy I chose to go with. You may find it useful.
All the best.