Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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221B 08/14/2016

A lot of what sets my anxity off is things that I can't control. Some examples are:

1) I got a new job that's a pretty big step up from where I was, but I don't feel like I deserve the role and sometimes it feels like more work than I can handle right now

2) the heart wants what it wants and I fell for a guy who's long distance. The distance is hard on me and it makes me feel like things could end at any time between us. I'm also scared to talk with him about anything too serious because I don't want to bug him with my abundance of anxiety...which makes me more anxious because now I've got all these things I want to talk about that are being bottled up.

I know that the answer to both of these probems is to just try my best and let things play out as they will, but I've stuggled with just "letting things be" all my life. I want a PLAN. I want an END GAME. I want a clearly defined THING to focus my energy at accomplishing. How do I deal with abiguity??

LittleSadie 08/15/2016

I read an article recently that talked about making plans. Get into detail about what you really want out of life. Imagine everything exactly as you want it. Then, be willing to let go of those plans and let your life unfold. Surrendering and being able to let go is a big part of letting go of anxiety. I hope that makes sense to you. It's something I have learned. I know who I am and where I'd like to go, but I am beginning to accept that I can't control everything that happens in my life. And that's okay.

bridgie101 08/15/2016

hahaha oh man if only we all knew that! :D

I am learning, finally learning, to just deal with today only, and leave everything else. If I fiddle with anything else I mess it up. I wreck relationships. I create arguments that don't resolve.

I feed my own anxiety, is what it boils down as.

so I don't fiddle with anything outside of my today not because of any wisdom or courage or intelligence: but because I have been so badly burned that my finger refuses to move towards the fire.

I think though that time is our friend. Time will show what will happen with your relationship and you will have to test it sometime, so you need to be yourself.

The job. What is 'deserving'? give it a year. See if you're stressed then. I don't know any reasonable level job that doesn't give a person a year to get their head in the game. Especially with the modern technology we all have to learn, and the 'in' knowledge, of who in finace does overseas payments and who in property does maintenance claims and where to go for... it's neverending. Just embrace it. And remember: the moment someone new comes, you're off the hook. :D

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