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How can I really start to change

searchingforthelight
searchingforthelight

I realize it. The reason why I encounter so many issues, and family problems and just any issues is because I am unable to smile and just have fun. I know that sounds a bit silly but I'm serious when I say that. For the past few years I've changed to the point where I've become too serious, I would of course have fun all the time but I would just over analyze every little situation socially and emotionally to the point where I've singaled myself out. Put myself to become a victim for others to see. Of course no one is the same and everyone has their own issues, but at the same time majority of people I know are very happy, friendly, and simply just are able to have fun in the moment they are living in. Whereas I, am very past-oriented and able to spot the flaws in every situation which prevents myself from having fun like everyone else. This may also sound silly, but because of this, it has really changed the way I physically look over the years as well. You see, I used to be very innocent and happier and because of that, I just looked a lot sweeter and even more likeable for other people. But then as years passed I became more stressed out and emotionally damaged to the point where I look so much different now. Like now when people see me they feel stress and stuff so my relationships with others aren't as stable. 


Like I really admire those people who are extremely pretty on the inside because it strongly reflects the outside 100%. Like they are so sweet, funny, and just are able to cheer up into the present moment, which draws other people in. I strongly struggle to do this because I constantly think I need to change many of my physical traits in order to be more well liked by others and to feel better. But realistically, as time passed I learned it has nothing to do with that; but everything to do with the way I hold myself and the way I speak with others and the way I am able to put myself out there to have fun. 


Like is that possible? It's impossible to change what I actually look like on the outside now, but maybe changing how I feel on the inside and the way I present myself to other people can contribute to others seeing me differently and better? 


This is important 

misleadingsmile
misleadingsmile
Let me see if I got this right ...do you want to change the outside to affect the inside? Or do you want to change the inside to affect the outside? PM me...I hate chatting in public forums...
Rruussnn
Rruussnn
It is not silly to believe that there is a link between feeling bad and looking not so good. I usually look worse when I don't feel good emotionally. My face and eyes feel it. One thing I noticed is that having started doing yoga recently has helped me feel and look better physically even though I am not feeling well emotionally these past four months, feeling more sad and hopeless and anxious. Despite the yoga. I guess if you feel like you look better, it doesn't matter what anyone else might think.
bullito
bullito
when my daughter was in her teens we took her to a psychologist. we were worried that she was so introverted and were afraid she might be slipping into a depression. there are always issues? were we right? does everybody has to like of to be liked by the group? she is still introverted finished college is looking for a job. mr. right I don't know. male-female relationships can be so off maybe more so now than a generation back. but one thing she did learn for the psychologist and is now part of her habits and I think in her case for the better. fix up, dress up, chin up. that gives her an advantage going out the door. takes some time but it has been a definite plus for her. being overly analytical can be dangerous and I understand your need to address it. however, it is refreshing to find analysis where vanity might be so abundant. value yourself for that but you are right to keep an eye on it with the intent of controlling because you are right it can little by little become a habit that moves you toward anxiety, and you see, you have beautifully analyzed this and should feel proud of yourself. you might have more brains than the rest of your peers in which case roll with the times and you will all get there
4evertryingtoimprove
4evertryingtoimprove
I had this same problem of overanalysis. What helped me the most is Mindfulness. Take every moment as it comes. Step by Step
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