Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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healingtears 12/30/2013

I'm so anxious. I have something I have to do today that is causing so much anxiety. If I don't go the reason for anxiety will just get worse. I have built up the worry so much I am convinced that the worst will happen. I don't really have a reason to think the worst. I know it won't be good and I'm ok with that I just don't want things to get as bad as it could be. I know that most of the time things we are scared of dont happen and avoiding them because we are anxious doesnt fix it. I just feel like the worst has happened and I'm pretty convinced it will. How do I push myself to go and is it just anxiety that makes me believe things will turn out horrible.

Sorry there isn't a lot of info about what has me anxious.

deleted_user 12/30/2013

TAKE YOUR TIME TAKE A WALK AROUND YOUR HOUSE OR YARD TRY TO FOCUS MAKE SMALL.STEPS TO GET THEIR

LuckyEmpath 12/30/2013

Anxiety does cause us to think the worst is going to happen. Our thoughts generally become very negative and, over the years, we begin to believe every negative thought. To combat this is to start thinking positive thoughts. This takes time so it may not help you with what you are facing today but there is no better time to start than the present. When you are thinking about what you have to face today think "Everything will be OK. I will make it through the day with no issues" - or whatever saying works for you. As long as it is a positive thought it will help. This is not to say that the negative thoughts will not be there too - they likely will - but keep saying the positive thoughts too.

How do you push yourself? By just doing it. Go and do whatever it is that you are afraid of. So often the anticipatory anxiety is much worse than the anxiety we feel when actually doing the thing we fear so much. And the best way to overcome the anxiety is to face it as often as you can.

I hope you get through this with as little anxiety as possible. Sending positive happy thoughts y our way.

Take care

deleted_user 12/30/2013

You said yourself that if you don't go, the anxiety will only get worse. If you already have it in your head that the worst will happen, mentally you should be prepared for what to do if it does. If the worst doesn't happen, you have lost nothing. I know this is hard for you, but push yourself. Be mindful of your breathing, and try to relax.

healingtears 12/30/2013

Most of the time what you are worried about doesnt happen right? I want to keep telling myself that but anxiety keeps telling me no you worry because you have a reason to worry and people with anxiety have their fears come true most of the time.

LuckyEmpath 12/30/2013

Most of the time our biggest fear is that we will be anxious or panic. Does this come true? Yes it does mainly because we create the anxiety with our thoughts. Then there are other body symptoms that can cause us to be more anxious. The thoughts that accompany these are usually "Am I really sick this time?" or "Am I going to die?". As anyone here can tell you... you won't die and you likely are not sick. When I was dealing with this type of thinking my therapist would remind me "How many times have you felt this way and you DIDN'T get sick or die?" Eventually it sunk in that I wasn't really sick and I wasn't going to die.

It does take time. Keep the positive thoughts going as best as you can. Keep thinking "Today is going to be a breeze" and/or "I am healthy and strong and NOTHING can knock me down!". Both very empowering statements.

deleted_user 12/30/2013

Don't worry at all.. I've had the worst fear imaginable and for absolutely no reason as I am a good kind person with a good heart and I never like to see anyone suffer. Anxiety fears are ALL FAKE and they never come true if they did actually come true they would have happened before you had anxiety, then you would feel regret and not fear.

healingtears 12/30/2013

Thanks jabnu that makes to much sense. I'm going to hold onto that today. I needed a reason to tell myself that anxiety wasn't real or the worst case hasn't happened yet. You made this so clear to me. Now I just hope I can remember it throughout the day.

Thanks everyone else too. It is nice to have people that can give you reassuring advice and not judge you for being anxious.

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