Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Smudge54 09/10/2007

Hi All.... I am desperate.... My panic attacks have come on full force again after a lot of years. Always had the agoraphobia thing with traveling too far ... etc.... But these last 5 weeks I just can't be alone. I have a certain group of friends that are my security blankets and if I am not with them or they are not easily accessible I PANIC!!!... I think I am driving them all crazy. I feel okay when I know I can reach them... and it can't be just by phone... I have to know I can reach them in person. Of course everyone works I do too but I'm in real estate and can just run....two others are young but retired and are all over the place daily.... No one is in just one place that would make me feel good to know if things get too bad I can run to them.... DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS SEPARATION ANXIETY/PANIC!!..... I NEED HELP.... Thanks alll

deleted_user 09/10/2007

I don't have actual panic attacks when I'm alone, but I'm unable to live alone. Which makes me feel like a fool at the age of 31. I lived on my own from the age of 18-30. But during those years, my depression, insomnia, and anxiety intensified. I didn't want a roommate because I'm a little too territorial with my space and keep a strange schedule due to my insomnia. So, last year I moved back home with my parents. As silly as it makes me feel, it has been very therapeutic. ***However,*** my greatest fear is the fact I'll be out on my own again once my parents are gone. And that living alone will make my anxiety even worse. I've basically sworn off dating and the idea of ever getting married because I just don't feel well enough, nor do I think I can handle the anxiety and unpredictability of dating. So I really rely on my family.

When I'm home alone--my parents are out and about-- I do feel a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. And I start to feel a great sense of depression. So my response is more of a depressive reaction, while you might have a more panicky one.

I'm not sure how to help this. My therapists have always told me I need to learn to be alone.

Smudge54 09/10/2007

It is so hard sometimes I know. When I was younger in my mid twenties, what I did was to get an apt that was in the same city as my parents and to find a place that had someone I could relate to in the building... If it was just a two family, I wanted to meet with the other person that lived there. Sometimes you may meet a nice couple that lives downstairs or vice versa and feel comfortable and then you are in your own place but someone either family or new friends are close by. Please try to find something... I know you will feel better about yourself and you are so young. My did start early too... but it did bet better for many years. It was always lurking,,, but not as prevelant as now. I just had my best friend and lover of 16 years leave me... I was blindsided... he moved out to California... I live in \MA and it brought all my insecurities and anxiety back almost full force. But with some help and support here I bet we can all help each other!!!

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