I have a person in our lives that was supposed to help my husband get a reference for work (previous post). Instead, talking with her is constant lectures. I'm going to write what was said, taking out names and such:

Me: T- doesn't wake up until about 2pm because of his insomnia. Can we shoot for next sunday instead?

Her: We have plans next week. From my perspective adressing sleep is more important than work. It's already inhibiting his options...

Me: Okay, well that's how he's been his whole life; he's just a night owl. We've tried everything and his current schedule works well, that's why we asked for afternoon.

Her: Not sure what you mean when you say it works well if he's never had a job. From my perspective as an employer, he's already lost the job I was offering. He wasn't motivated to show up. I'm a morning person but work late nights all the time. E- is a night owl but us at work by 6:30 am when necessary. E- and I are both willing to give thus a try, but if we were actually employing T-, he would have lost the job before it started.

Me: We asked for afternoons, you said yes. You changed that specification, then say he's 'unmotivated'? It's fine, we'll figure something else out. Thanks for the offer.

Her: I did not understand that T- was making a specification that it had to be afternoons. You told me Sun days or Mondays. Someone in his position is not actually in the position of making that kind of demands. But I do wish you the best of luck. And I also would recommend that you look into how much brain damage you're creating for Astor (she's referring to my son, but doesn't even get the name right) by giving him the pad all the time. There is plenty of research out there. (No way she knows what we do with my son outside her little office, she's just assuming at this point)

Now, I haven't answered back, and I won't. She's trying to cut low and she doesn't even know our personal goings-ons. Her 'not knowing' that we asked for afternoons was entirely bullshit on her part, that's the first thing we said during the first meeting. She has admitted to having her own brain damage (from concussions) so that might also be a factor. This is not okay behavior and I'm furious that she dares to assume these parts of my life. She's not a parent, we don't meet outside of work to discuss things, and she was never offering a job. She was offering a volunteer job or two around their HOUSE. She's also lost her privelege of being an employer because she had to downgrade her business last summer. 

I don't believe I went too far, and I'm cutting off all contact with her. What do you guys think?