Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Every time I go hang out with my friends it feels great at first, but then I get this worrying sick feeling that they talk bad about me and they always talk bad about everyone they meet. Even my friends talk about the past too much and complain about others right in front of my face. I have a feeling that they text bad things about me right in front of my face and I am at fault too because I talk bad about people too and I am aware it's wrong and I'm trying to stop it. I don't know if it's okay if I'm trying to not be friends with them. I don't want enemies or to hate them, I'm just tired of people talking bad about others all the time.
When you have anxiety you experience a lot of emotion. Someone calls you ugly - you can fall into the depths of the ocean from that. You can be taken right down and left there for days.
But if you don't have anxiety, and someone calls you ugly, you say 'so what?'
there's no emotion. You know how you look. It is what it is, and it's not relevant for them to comment.
Right?
That's the difference between anxiety, and not-anxiety. Utter despair and devastation versus... nothing. Not even interested.
The other aspect of anxiety is the paranoia. Where you seriously consider they're texting bad comments about you in front of you as you say. firstly, even if they did, so what? If you don't know about it, it didn't happen. Secondly, it's highly unlikely. They want to go out with you, right? They don't avoid you. It's extremely unlikely. You can't spend your life angsting about things that are unlikely. Wait till they happen to you, wait till there is proof - and then have your reaction then. Otherwise you're going to spend your life having reactions to stuff that didn't ever take place.
You have to go out and have a good time with the friends. love every second. If they badmouth you when you are not there? so what? Who cares? What does it change? From your point of view, what you don't know actually doesn't hurt you. It really doesn't. So don't waste energy on it.
As to what you guys talk about when you're together; at a certain age all anyone talks about is other people. Like some giant soap opera. But if you have something real going on, talk about it. Buying a house, selling a car, saving for a holiday, doing a course at varsity. If you've got stuff to offer up offer it up. :)
I try not to talk bad about anyone. Remember you cannot control what anyone else does of says so I learned not to worry about it.
Hope the best for you!