Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I'm scared that I'm never going to find a girl that I want to be with and who likewise feels the same way about me. I'm 19, but I'm so far behind where everyone is in their love lives. I have the romantic experience of a 14-15-year-old, and that makes me feel weird. It seeps into other parts of my life when I'm with friends and I just feel strange because I'm not on the same level as them. I'm neither model-like nor ugly, people tend to tell me I have a good personality, and I'm smart and fairly athletic. My one big insecurity that has been holding me back is my height, around 5'5. I lost my last (honestly only) girlfiend because of my own self-imposed insecurities. I've been feeling a lot better about my height recently, but overall it's still a big problem for me. Basically, I'm saying I don't know what to expect in the near future. I don't know how my life is going to turn out and if I'm going to like it. I eventually want a family, but I can't picture that happening right now. One of my beacons of hope that makes my life bearable during the hard times is that I could have a son, and I would be able to guide him and help not make the same mistakes I made. I admit, it is a bit of shameless vicarious living, but oh well.
I know everyone has someone out there for them but I don't want to keep waiting. Hang in there, it will get better.
You are so young. It may not feel like it now, and I completely understand the pressure you feel upon you with having to grow up and have it all as time flies quicker and quicker through the years. But trust me, what you need (not necessarily want, because that is not the same thing as what you need), will come to you when you are ready for it.
Although in this respect, I cannot truly speak from a place of authority, however I believe that in order to gain a healthy and loving relationship that I so desire, I need to be better, more honest, and more forgiving to myself. I need to accept my insecurities and change their light in my own eyes before I can expect anyone else to accept me. You will find someone that loves the things you hate about yourself. Don't sell yourself short, someone's trash is another person's treasure. You are so valuable. You just haven't found the person that deserves you yet.