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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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healingtears 07/14/2014

Today isn't going so well. It's my birthday and there is a bunch of family drama happening. My sister has something she needs to talk to my mom about before it causes too many issues. But talking about it will create even more issues. They don't communicate well and I don't see a good outcome. My sister has a childhood memory that is going to make my mom defensive and tear our family apart. I'm not convinced her memory is clear enough to assume anything or is even accurate. I think if you look for something to be there it will be there.

Maybe I'm in denial. But I don't have any memories or reason to think anything. It would be easy to say oh that explains this I and this but I have never had these concerns so I don't want to analyze.

Is there anyway to tell my mom some info while waiting for my sister to see if she thinks this is true. The way things are right now my parents need an explanation but I don't think it's the right time to bring up everything.

dachshund2014 07/14/2014

We lost my brother years ago due to a car crash, so I understand about family drama on holidays and birthdays. These are always tough days for us.

Wishing you a happy and peaceful birthday. Just go with your gut. You'll know when it feels right to talk to your Mom. Hope everything works out for you.

healingtears 07/14/2014

Thanks.. More things have happened today and I decided I'm removing myself from the situations. My heart goes out to my parents. I feel like my sister is looking for things now. She isn't really listening to my advice. I just hope this doesn't keep my parents from having a relationship with their granddaughter

Crispymomma 07/14/2014

My sis started a bunch of junk a few weeks ago pretty much telling everyone in the family that she was abusive to her as a kid. It really hurt my mother. I know that my sister is not telling the truth, but I can't stop her mouth; although, I did confront her which turned into even more drama.
Anyways, try to be there for your parents if it goes South. I had to help soothe my momma for days after my sister's tantrum.

healingtears 07/15/2014

Yesterday ended up going ok. Not too much drama. I'm having a hard time with the stuff my sister brought up. I don't know if it's true or not and she doesn't either. She is going by her gut and a vague memory. The memory could mean different things too. I just feel like she is on a witch hunt and making zero effort to find out the truth. She would rather point the finger than seek a professional to help her with her memory. I'm not saying she is making stuff up I just don't think she should be closed minded to other possibilities.

Regardless of it being true or not I think she should be careful what she says and does incase she finds out she was wrong and she destroys her relationship with our parents.

dachshund2014 07/15/2014

You are very wise, healingtears. I hope your sister takes your advice.

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