Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Everytime I start to feel better I get anxious tho

Edger
Edger
Really Ned help. Feel depressed and want to cry. Everytime I manage to feel a bit more confident. A anxious thought about an upcoming event that might go wrong pops in my head. Me having a hard time getting out if parking space with out hitting cars when I take husband to colonoscopy.
Husband leaving car lights on when he goes to three day training. And have dead battery. I won't drive beltway. He will does not like to wait for tow company to jump or give new battery. I'm so tired of not enjoying life.
I'm in pills that work. And have had therapy specifically for anxiety. And am improved a whole lot from before meds and therapy. But, things keep coming up that make my brain anxious.

Barbara
rskb3
rskb3
Can you try to challenge your negative thoughts? For example: if your car battery is dead what would you do? Maybe you could call someone to come and give you a jump? Try to think of something positive to combat the negative thought. Life will go on even if you have a dead battery or your husband leaves the lights on. I hope that this will help you.
bridgie101
bridgie101
My brother in law has a thing he calls the 'ten year test' for money. If he has to spend, he asks 'will I care about this cost in 10 yrs?' and if the answer is no, he lets it go and just bites the bullet.

I have a test that's similar. My test goes 'who dies?'

if nobody dies, I let the issue go.

So with the battery: i ask, who dies? Nobody. Cool. forget it.
Hitting a car when you come out of the carpark. Who dies? Nobody. give it the kick.

That's a level 1 test. The next test is: can money cure this?

If money can cure this, then stockpile money. Flat battery? Pay AA to come. ding a car in the carpark? Money will make that disappear.

Husband not like waiting for tow company? Husband can cry himself to sleep waiting. Just not even a problem that exists. He flattens the battery, he can live through the fixup.

You're taking enormous responsibility for everything. You are not responsible for fixing someone else's mistakes. Your husband is a grown man who can find a way to handle his own responsibilities. Unless he's intellectually handicapped, you need to let go and treat him like a man.