Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I had an agruement with my dad this morning and although we made up i am still pretty upset. I am upset with myself because if something negative happens to me i have such a hard time shaking it off. It ruins my day and makes me so upset. I hate that I cannot just get over things. To make matters worse I called my boyfriend looking for some support and when I started to cry he said "why are you crying? You have nothing to cry about"-- that really set me off because I hate when people tell me that I have nothing to be anxious or upset about. So I snapped at him and then he said that I was being a pain in the ass. So now I feel alone. I can't even look at anything sad or even happy with out crying. I am so tired of my anxiety. I really need some kind words today.
I kind of know what you are dealing with. I have struggled with this is the past. I think after I went through some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy- I was able to detach myself, mentally, from other peoples opinions and behaviors. I have very bad anxiety still, but it helps me to think logically about things to resolve my feelings in the moment.
Like, try to remember that what both your dad and your boyfriend say doesn't define anything about you, and you get to chose how you react to it. It is your choice to either be upset or be happy.
I know it seems insane to suggest your reaction is a choice, especially when you feel so out of control- but it genuinely is. You can focus on the negative in the moment, or chose to focus on the positive. Maybe try it next time. See if it helps.
Try not to focus on your anxiety- try to focus on the things you are thankful for. The things in your life you are grateful for. List ten if you can, and think on those things. Gratitude dissolves negativity.
Good luck lady, and know you're not alone.
and maybe eat your favorite snack ;) always helps me! ha!