Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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ericon 07/27/2010

I have pretty much recovered from my anxiety but it had been really bad for the past year. The last two months I have started feeling like myself again but am now realizing how much of a toll it has taken on my relationship with my boyfriend. He stuck with me through the whole thing but now as I am getting better we are finally starting to talk about the effect it had on him. One of the biggest effects it had was on our sex life. He said he hasn't been able to look at me in a physical way for a while because I spent most of the last year crying and talking with him about all the physical issues that "I thought" were wrong with my body. He said he is starting to get these feelings back but I am worried that the anxiety may have ruined our relationship. Anybody else experience this? I really want this relationship to work out and love him a lot so any advice would be appreciated.

deleted_user 07/27/2010

He thinks of you sexually again. You didn't mention if you were on meds or not, If not maybe you need some and if you are maybe you need different ones.

dazedanconfusedd 07/27/2010

Anxiety is HARD on those around us just as it is hard on us! I know my hubby got really mad at me the other day about something pertaining to my anxiety meds. The fight lasted all night, but luckily he said he was sorry and we are ok again. He is a very patient and understanding man, so that helps me alot!

It is so difficult for others to understand anxiety when they have never been through it themselves. Just sit down and talk with him and work through it. I am sure that now that you are doing better, things will be so different.

Men are really softies in their hearts!

Good luck sweetie!

deleted_user 07/27/2010

I recently almost broke up with my boyfriend (or rather, he almost broke up with me), and it amounted to problems resulting from my anxiety. I have slight social anxieties, which have put a strain on anytime we try to go out with his friends, because I'm not very comfortable. More generally, he had concerns and doubts about whether or not we are right for one another, and also concerns about the fact that we both want children someday, but where he perceives I cannot even take care of myself (due to anxiety), he doesn't see how I am or will ever be fit to have a child.

Luckily, I am starting therapy soon, and he knows that I am working on bettering myself and conquering anxiety. I think as long as your partner understands that you are not just allowing the anxiety to run your life and that you are taking steps to overcome it, they will be patient with you and supportive. That is what I have found anyway. After a long, long talk with my bf, he realized how I am committed to working on myself, making myself healthier, so that we can nurture one another in a healthy relationship. My advice would be to let him know that you are aware of the things you have to overcome and work on but that you will do so, and then he should be proud and supportive of you for wanting to improve. That would be my take on it. Stay strong!

deleted_user 07/27/2010

It takes awhile for someone to adjust to being with someone who has serious anxiety problems. But also remember that your anxiety is not your fault and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it. That being said, maybe he just needs time.

koolman 07/28/2010

Wow, he sounds like a good guy, a keeper!

Relationships, especially sex, if you're not ready for it, can CAUSE anxiety!

One way to get over your body issues is to concentrate on HIS body. He'll be quite grateful for it, and you'll forget about your body and just have a good time.

Also, there's a tendency for some of us to feel like we're powerless in a relationship. Perhaps exert some sexual dominance on him, and you'll see that you are indeed in full control, of your own feelings, and some of his, and that you are a sexy vixen who can influence the heart and mind of this man beyond belief!

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