Hello darlin'. I haven't been able to drive for 9 years. I had this horrible car wreck on the ice and honestly I thought that I was going to die. I haven't been able to get past that fear. Even when I am riding with my family members I picture a million different ways I could die and by the time I get where we are going I am a nervous wreck and am so exhausted and just have to hurry and get whatever we need from the grocery and come back home and it takes days to bounce back. I have been told it is all in my head and I hate that so much. It is a really insensitive thing to say. I think that you are brave for still trying to go to your daughter's functions, the grocery and events. Please try not to beat yourself up. There's a reason you have this fear. If you do this past life regression will you let me know what you find out?

Thank you svandalousbeauty for your kind reply..... it helped me a lot. When I got home my daughter asked me why I didn't go and she was ok about my sharing about it. That helped too. Yes, I'll let you know the results.

Sorry I was in panic mode and forgot to tell you I'm sorry for your experience. I can't imagine the fear and anxiety of it.....

I don't know if you're a Harry Potter fan or not, but as you may remember, in the last book Harry asks, "Is this real, or has this all been happening in my head?" to which Dumbledore replies, "Of course this is all happening in your head, but that doesn't mean it isn't real!"
"All in your head" should never be a statement of dismissal or refusal to help. If someone is putting you down this why, please see if you can find a better adviser! Your head is a very unique and special place. :) For some reason, what scientists call the "ancient brain" takes over when you don't really need it to. This is a challenge, and one that can be addressed. But while you're working on it. please be patient with yourself. Those who love you will choose patience too. Shame isn't needed and won't help.
[And in some cases, there is a physical reason too. Part of my story is genes that don't produce enough serotonin. I don't know all your story, but a good doctor is a scientist and will explore possibilities.]

Sorry for what you are experiencing. If you have been in therapy for eight years and they have not helped you, you should look for a different therapist. Sometimes it takes seeing several different ones until you find the right one for you.

You have a very mature daughter if she was able to understand your feelings and you are a good mother for sharing truthfully. Fears with no basis are debilitating for me too. Sometimes just telling myself to slow down will get me back on track.

Thank you Kimabi. Very good point even when it's in our head it is still real.

Sharaninmd: I will look for another type of help. Have you found any particular therapy that has helped?

Djchum: self compassion is something I struggle with. My critical voice is a challenge but I keep trying:) thank you.

Thank you all....means a lot to have individuals that understand..

I am really glad that your daughter was understanding of your situation. It sounds like you raised a really great kid. I hope today was better for you.

I' know how you feel it's hard I'm 18 and a senior and freak out about everything . I feel like I can't do anything right and there's not a purpose for me . I wish I had someone to talk to who could relate . I can't even drive o don't have my license I want to but I freak out and all my friends who wear close to be some died and some wear hurt badly so it scared me I'm always stressed out because I do online school and my grades are bad . I tried online this year and can go back to public school in 2 weeks ! But I'm sick of crying and worrying all the time . I feel like no matter what I do I freak out and nothing I do is good enough

Soecialchick99: thank you for replying. I'm sorry it's so tough for you....do you have someone that helps you,? I found my therapist 15 years ago and it helped, slowly but it does work. I also take an anti anxiety medication to help me function. I'll be thinking of you.