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could this be my anxiety or what?

Brittanyg16
Brittanyg16
this crap all started when we started talking about relationships in our health class on friday. i let things get into my head and make me go insane!! i have been with matt 4 2years. im happy with him but i feel like i met him too early in life. i wish i had dated other people before him. i want him to be the one ya know? and i dont know that he is...i just really want him to be it! i love him so much but im afraid we wont make it because of my own stupidity. im afraid something will play with my head and ill just break up with him for no good reason. i think also this weekend we were together too much. i was beginning to feel smothered. i felt better last night when i got back to my dorm and im feeling a little more better now that im writing this but i know im really just scared for no reason. i love him he loves me...im just scared. he says he knows he is going to marry me and all that stuff but how am i supposed to KNOW that i want to marry him when he is the only person i have dated? i dont want to date anyone else but part of me knows that im gonna have to eventually if i want to be sure about matt. that just scares the Shi* out of me!! i dont ever want to hurt him and i dont ever want to feel crappy. we took a break before for a week before he left for basic trainig. i think im overanalyzing everything. can anxiety cause me to feel like this? is there any advice?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I thik you are over analizing. ;o/ First off you BOTH love eachother. also who says you HAVE 2 date others in order to find out what love is? He sounds like a great man. Don't let others say anything that makes you feel less than who you are at this moment. many relationships have lasted for yearsss, with first loves. Don't project on what "could" be. Go with what you KNOW now. Noone can predict your future. BTW women over anylize everything lol That is where we always make wrong decisions. Calm yourself. and ask your innerself, is this true?..Or just ask God...go to your quiet space there he shall be. :)
oohum02
oohum02
There are tons of people out there. You seem to have a really great person and so does he. Try to spend less time worrying about what might happen and just be happy with the way things are right now. If you're truly not happy then you know what you need to do but in worrying, you're wasting your precious time. Sometimes I get into fits of anxiety worrying about what I will do when my husband dies. We are 24 and 25 years old!!!!! Sometimes you just have to bring yourself back to reality and enjoy the current. Ultimately, we all find ways of dealing with bad situations, but the key is not to plan for failure ahead of time. All the best!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi there,
I myself have been with my first guy for eight years now and let me tell you, you definatly don't have to date other people to know how great he is. I have also thought about "playin the field" but then I notice other people's relationships that are "crap" and people who are dating all the time and can't find Mr.Right, they are miserable. I'm not telling you what to do, thats just my opinion. Me and my guy are together 8 years and have 2 beautiful children. I guess it worked for me, I hope you find what works for you. Listen to YOU not everyone esle.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sure....anxiety plays a role, not only about your doubts over the relationship but the anxiety which accompanies an uncertain future. he is in the military now as a young soldier. it is a difficult path. many changes are required. be patient. i know: i am a retired soldier.
kate52
kate52
Find out what is true for you...you are the only one who can do this. If you feel smothered, my opinion is that it is not what you want..but then I do not know what is going on inside you. I would think that your anxiety is about making the decision that feels like the right one for you. You would not be the first to feel like they needed to explore more before settling down. Better now than after you're married. Dealing with issues definitely lessens anxiety..good luck! ((hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Things have a funny way of working out if they are meant to be. I also see nothing wrong with taking a break if you need some time to sort out your feelings and perhaps date other people. If doing that causes you to lose this fella I tend to feel that the two of you were not meant to be. I just don't think it is wise to focus on losing him so much because of the feelings you have. Fate has a way of not showing all its cards and like many previous posts mentioned above there are no gurantees in life. I just would rather explore my feelings and if that means losing what I have it probably was never mine in the first place.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I broke up with brad plenty of times when I had anxiety it sucks let me tell you i didnt sleep or eat for days and I got really sick and I always told hhim I cant be with you like this Ever since ive been with you ive gotten this but dnt worry itll blow over I mean if you pray to god he will help you through this your not alone and I know what your going through went through it for a year with brad until I was like to myself Im okay nothing is worng with me! I mean now I take medication cause brads gonae and I need that for comfort because brad was always there to comfort me I hope this helps you an some or lil way but god bless!
deleted_user
deleted_user
dont worry anxiety can do whatever it wants to do, it has no limit and yes it can mess with your head and tell you things that you yourself know isnt true. I would just say takeveryones advice and just relax! everything will be fine!