I know you said your relationship is fairly new, but have you talked with your boyfriend about your anxiety. I was very anxious around my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship and now I'm struggling with work related anxiety like I never have before. I tried to hide it from him for awhile, but once I talked with him about it I felt much better. He was more supportive than I could have imagined and it's so much easier for me now because I know he's on my side. If your boyfriend is worth being with, he'll be on your side too and you can take baby steps together to tackle your anxieties.

The media and Madison Avenue trick you to compare yourself with others, including your twin sister. You are your own person and have your own experiences, independent of theirs. Whatever will be will be. If it's good, it's good. If it sucks, it sucks.

The important thing is not to set up artificial barriers to experiences because of preconceived biases. Let things play out and be how they are. Ups and downs, good and bad are part of life. As long as you are experiencing you are living. The bad times help you appreciate the good ones and the good ones help you tolerate the bad ones.

I don't know. I hope my words give you some comfort.

When you have anxiety everything else can be magnified, everything.
I recently went to the skies and traveled to the beach. It was a way for me to get away from people, back to nature. Stressful, yes, but I found my way to the beach.

I hate my anxiety too, but I really do not compare myself to anyone else. Without sounding snobbish I hope, I do not see any comparability between myself and many others. But who could blame me: how many people do you meet that have anxiety, panic attacks, P.T.S.D., can communicate with the dead, have telepathic abilities, are autistic, can foresee future events, and can instantly tell right from wrong. I am in a different world altogether, most people are not in it, will never be.

I also struggle with that,i called it kinda relationship anxiety.but i have been open with my hubby bout it and its a journey for me...hes supportive and the anxiety comes and goes..maybe write down everything that worries u bout going on vacation with him..it helps me.it does get better.

Ahhhh....comparing my self to others. I was a professional at this.....when I had anxiety. I now know that the reason I was so caught up in looking at other people's "perfect lives"....is because I couldn't see my own. Folks who have anxiety also usually have pretty low self esteem. Anxiety makes us feel out of control and helpless.

This feeling can be turned around with learning to understand what creates our anxiety it in the first place. You have the power to overcome this condition.....you just need the tools in which to do so. I know this because I used to be exactly like you....looking at other peoples lives as wonderful and my own as hopeless. I tried everything offered under the sun to "fix" myself...only to find out that what I needed to fix myself was within me the whole time.

When I was anxious I made a promiss that is I ever found my way out of anxiety I would help other who are experiencing it. That is why I am here....can't break a promise...right?

If you friend me I have a 12 week program on my journal page that has helped me to completely overcome anxiety. I have been free from anxiety and depression for almost 4 years. As far as self esteem goes....I still have complete respect and admiration for all of the people in my life....but I now also have respect and admiration for myself....now that's self esteem!