Im so very sorry to hear you are going through this, it,s awful not only that your husband cheated but you have to through having to be tested at an STD clinic.
Please try and protect yourself from this.
Do you have a best freind maybe that would go with you for moral support?.
This is not your fault!!.
Are you going to allow your husband to stay?, if so i would reccommend marriage counclling.
Make sure you take your anxiety meds and maybe breathing techniques, it may help, your in a very stressfull situation right now so your aniety is going to play up, maybe your doctor can give you a little increase in your meds for a short time untill you get through this.
Please Take Care Of Your Self.
xxxxx

I believe cheating is the worst thing that one person can do to another. Keep in mind you did not make him do it, this is a weakness in himself.I don't know what to say about your anxiety, in a situation like this I think anyone would have anxiety.Chances are you won't have a an std, but if you did, most are fixable.

i know how hurt you are by your husband cheating on you. before, i let god pick the right man for me, i was cheated on. it hurt so bad. i think that cheating is a selfish act. when people do it they dont take in to consideration who they hurt. I am certain that yur test will be fine. do you think you are anxious because of the test or because your reltationship is on the rocks. the first thing you need to do is decide whether you can take him back. we all know that trust has been broken and his difficult to restore,but if you love him and he loves you, you all can over come this issue. However, i am wondering is he still cheating, how did you find out. did he tell you right me back

i keep you in prayer

Sorry to hear about your cheating tosser of a husband.

Let me tell you, I've been cheated on in the past a few times too. I've also been a mistress, and I've also done some cheating. None of it is good. I'm a tosser too. Not proud of it at all. But whatever I have done, or whatever has been done to me, I've got through it.

PLEASE... try not to let his actions affect your life. You shouldn't be paying for the bad things he has done.

You will get through this anxiety the same as you do any other. Make sure you're getting counselling and taking your meds.

I have hypercondriasis (or however you spell it) and one of my biggest fears is STDs, so, again I know what you're going through.

Please try not to worry, and please bear in mind that you will have us lot here on Dailystrength to help you with whatever comes next.

Good luck... and if you want to talk to me about this, I'll be as helpful as I can... like I say,I seem to have been through this myself. Just drop me a message.

My ex cheated on me 3 times...why I stayed I don't know. I guess because I'm so insecure and I truly believed he was sorry. I did it for the kids too. Anyway, I went through all those tests and I was so humiliated. Especially with the AIDS test. There should have been no reason for me ever to have to get those tests, but they all came back OK and now I'm trying to get on with my life. I'm here if you need to talk.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I've been having bad anxiety attacks because I suspect that my signicant other might be having an affair with his coworker. And I'm not even married to him. So I know that this must be really hard on you. You should really try talking to a therapist. What helps me is that when I'm about to have an anxiety attack I try to keep my mind busy with positive things. I try to watch funny movies or think about other positive things things in my life. Then I tell myself that this is not gonna kill me. I'm gonna be alright. I know it's hard to think positive when you are having physical symtoms of anxiety attacks but it's better than being consumed by thoughts that make you feel miserable. Hope everything goes well with the tests.

Angelpock,
I wish you luck as you're finding out your VD results. It's terrible that your lying, cheating husband is putting you through this. Are you and your husband planning to stay together, or are you leaving? My doc told me that anxiety usually comes about when our brain and body wants us to GET OUT of a situation. If you stay, you both have got to do counseling, independent, and probably together. I wish you much, much luck. ANyone going through what you're being faced with would have anxiety through the roof. Take care.

Hopefully things worked out since this was posted in 2007.

Get tested and practice safe sex. From my understanding, not all STDs show up immediately during testing. But definitely continue to practice safe sex.

Seek counseling for yourself and as a couple.

Very sorry to hear of your troubles. I would help you in any way I could. Very hard stuff. Things will be better in time.

My ex husband cheated multiple times, even brought his dates into my house with me home as punishment for not obeying him. Hence I said Ex husband. No one should cheat on their partner, but I will tell you this, there are better people in the world, and your time shouldn't be wasted on the wrong person. You are fabulous, and if they can't see that they can hit the door with their stuff on the front porch. Its been 7 years since we divorced but I look back every single day and ask what the hell I was thinking for being with a person like that.

I feel for your situation i can feel your pain right now. No one should cheat on their partners, but I can tell you this, there are far better person in the world, and your time shouldn't be wasted on the wrong person.