OK right try not to panic ok. I dont know where you are so i dont know what assistance is open to you but these things always have a way of sorting themselves out. You wont end up homeless you have kids they cant do that.
Right anxiety is smashing you to pieces right now. I know this its happening to me too. I have just recently left my ex and i have got my nine year old autistic son in tow because he wanted it that way so i am in exactly the same place as you ok. The only difference is i have support from some very special people who have helped me but you need to try to reign this in a bit ok because while you are panicking about everything you are not going to be able to focus on getting things done because you are thinking about too many things at once ok. This is a really easy trap to fall into ok and you will go under if you keep doing this so you need to calm down a bit and be kind to yourself. Those kids need you and you will be no good to them if you worry yourself into the grave. I wont pretend it is easy being the sole parent, it isnt, its a full time job and its hard for me with one let alone two, if i had two i think id be going pretty nuts meself right now lol but i am not because that little guy needs me and i need to be strong which is what you need to do now. You are at a crossroads you either go under or you dig deep and find the resourses within you to get through this so really you have no choice you have to do this.
Ok constructively you need to find out what help you have available. Second you need to stop trying to visualize your future because the future is a mystery you really dont know what could happen tomorrow or the next day and if you spend time trying to predict it then all that will happen is a sufferer of anxiety you will predict it negatively which is what you are doing right now its all over your post.
So, take five, clear your head, for now focus on today and forget about tomorrow ok. When you are calm again make a list of your priorities, what you need most and focus on them one at a time and if anyone gives you a hard time say F U because lady you are a mom and it really does not matter who the hell thinks what so long as you and them kids are ok then you are doing your job.
Keep a clear head and dont panic ok, consentrate on what is and not what might be ok and first thing u need to do is get advise on your situation and get as much help as you can and that must start with your doctor ok. Go to him or her explain what is going on so they know so that when the shit does hit the fan it will be documented and validated.
Anxiety will do a number on your right now, you are going thru massive stresses and this will kick start your anxiety and you need to be mindful of the effect this can have and how it can strip you of what strength you have which is what you need here.
Life is a harsh game sometimes but in a few months or whatever you will look back on this and think jesus i did all that!

elament, in my head I know all this....I swear I have OCD because I play everything in my head. I know I NEED to do this, I probably know I WILL do this....I just can't get going. I don't know where to start. It's like being surrounded by rubble from an earthquake and wondering where do I begin. I know I can't predict the future, I so wish I could. Yesterday, my mother was harsh and I ended up hanging up on her. I'm done with her....she has never stood by me before and continues to cut me down esp when I am at my lowest. She has never walked in my shoes. I wish I lived closer to some support system, but I never needed anyone before...I have always taken care of my own shit, but lately it's too overwhelming. Too overwhelming to think my marriage is finally over, even tho the divorce was 2 years ago, but the courts still linger on. I make peace with things, then other stuff eats me up, esp with the kids. I am working full time and stretched to the limit. He helps but is also giving me primary custody. I never wanted this for my family...ever. My kids are suffering so much and it falls back on me to the point where I am prob going to lose my job bc of it. Thank you elament, I just need to vent or someone to tell me...idk...something. I'm not doing well right this moment, and need to get to work. Making a list sounds good but I have (when I get a free moment) need to find a place to live...I have been looking but it's so expensive and/or bad areas. My kids don't deserve this. I could make do, but not them.

You have a tremendous amount of stress. I am not a doctor, I thought I had alot of stress. If you can squeeze in a therapist, that would really help. Another thing, when I am so overwhelmed and I am paralyzed with fear, I make a priority list, write it down, because when you write it down it gets out of your jumbled brain onto paper. I date things too, that helps. Also what helps me is taking one thing at a time, I know that is cliche' (sp) but it really helps not to look too far into the future. After every thing gets settled, the divorce, the house, your ex and you are in your own place and your boys feel peaceful and you feel moderately peaceful, get a new job. THAT STRESS you do NOT need. I have had PLENTYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY of jobs like that. Take care of you the best you can, even if it is the simplest thing, like your favorite coffee or tea drink, a new top, or even 10 minutes staring at a tree. You need to take care of you first. You are VERY STRONG, you can do this. Take good care, my best to you and the boys. Jennifer

I'm so sorry things are so hard for you right now. I only have me and my dog to think about I couldn't immagine having to worry about two precious little ones to boot. You have been through hard times before though and came out the winner you can do it again. I like the others am a list maker but every one had different ways of sorting stuff out. I think you should see what type of housing assistance is in your area I'd say your local social services agency would be a good starting point. Here we have things like HUD, and other subsidised complexes. Once you have a definate budget you can use your serch time more effectively. As far as moving goes stick a box in each room and as you go through your day to day throw something in the box. Before you know it you will be packed. Above all else breath and try to find a way to get more sleep your body needs it for energy.

When a person has so much change to accommodate our brains will often try to control it with a big picture focus. This does not work and just breeds more stress and confusion. You need to focus on the most immediate steps you can take - ones that are the most time critical and then put the others on the to do list. Make a written list and dont allow your mind to go over and over the things on the list.

Prioritize and inch forward. Seeing progress in even tiny steps will lower the stress - give you a sense of control and move you forward.

Thank you all...great advice. My tears are flowing as I read all this. I feel like a huge baby. I have always dealt with things ok, but just not this, not right now. I thank you all for responding.

its fine we all go under from time to time but you are a stro ng person i sense that you WILL get thru this i know you will