Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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QuinC 09/10/2009

In May I delivered a stillborn son. It broke my heart in more ways than one. I guess you can say I was in denial the first month or so. Then I found out what caused my baby to pass. It sent me in a downward spiral thinking there was something wrong with me. I went to every doctor you can think of and everything came back fine. I finally went to my doctor and they put me on 10mg of Lexapro and Buspar. My anxiety is way out of control. All I think about is my breathing. I don't have the chest pains anymore or any of the other symptoms just this breathing crap. Sometimes I feel like I will live like this for the rest of my life. I have never had any anxiety issues until the baby passed. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,
Quin

deleted_user 09/10/2009

Hi Quin, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. The stress of such an overwhelming loss is enormous and would definatly cause the anxiety you speak of. The obsession of "mindfully" breathing 24/7 is most likely because of the trauma of your babies loss and the chest pains which made you fear for your own life. Please try to relax and think of anything in your life that you find pleasure in. Try to distract yourslef with anything enjoyable to keep you mind off breathing. Our bodies are amazing and breathing is an involuntary and reflexive movement. You cannot stop breathing by thinking about it any more than you can keep breathing if your body is incapible. Breathing is the one thing in life you don't have to think about. Hang in there. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

deleted_user 09/10/2009

Hi Quinc, I am so sorry for your loss , it must have been a terrible hard period to get through , but you have and you wil . You have gone through a tramatic experience which would send anyone over the edge , just try to be patient and you wil feel yourself again . Time is a great healer , and don t blame yourself . Just let yourself grieve and cry wenever you need to . Hugs to you xxx

deleted_user 09/11/2009

I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost four babies, one was stillborn and I had a similar problem. I would feel like I was forgetting to breathe. I would take really deep breaths sometimes just to "make up for" my missed breaths. My doctor at the time told me it was grief and depression. Give yourself time to heal. As much time as YOU need not as much as people THINK you need. Again, I am very sorry for your loss.

deleted_user 09/12/2009

Hi Quin,

I am actually going through the same thing right now. I had a pulmonary embolism (blood clots in the lungs) and have started going crazy, worried that I am not breathing right. I am not inhaling and exhaling at the right times. I feel like I need to consciously control every breath. For that part, I really feel your pain.

I am really sorry for your loss, which I can't imagine. You are going through a difficult time and things are going to be hard for a while, but you will survive. You are not crazy - this is one way you are dealing with the pain you are going through.

Take care of yourself

deleted_user 09/12/2009

I am so sorry for your loss! I am on Buspar also and it seems to help me. I hope it can help you. Just try and relax and be paitent, things will get better if you work towards them. I know you can do it! I believe in you. Take care and chin up!

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