Anxiety Support Group
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I am in a bizarre situation that is causing me great anxiety...if anyone can offer any advice to me, I would appreciate it!
In the past, I used to smoke marijuana. I was an enthusiast of it, and would get it for someone at my workplace who could not find their own connection. I have been doing this for about 1 year.
I am now done with all drugs - and I am not comfortable getting marijuana for this person anymore. I am going to tell them "No" the next time they ask me for some, but there is a problem...my extreme anxiety that has me worried sick.
The person I got it for is very large. I am afraid if I tell him no he may hurt me in some way. Also, I have told him I might stop doing this before and he got very upset with me. I am afraid there will be a big confrontation when I tell him no. He also owns guns and knives and knows where I live. I am afraid he may come to my house, break in, and hurt my family and me or even kill us. (I know this sounds stupid, but I really worry about these things!)
What makes it even more difficult is that I used to be good friends with this person and still talk to them at work several times a week.
So...does anyone have any advice on how to say "No" to this person without getting too anxious? I am dreading the day he tries to give me money to get more marijuana for him (but no matter what - I am going to say no!). I am just so afraid of him and how to say it confidently. Also, I am still going to be working with this person until I find a new job (which I hope is sometime soon).
This is a serious post! Please help with any advice you can give me.
In the past, I used to smoke marijuana. I was an enthusiast of it, and would get it for someone at my workplace who could not find their own connection. I have been doing this for about 1 year.
I am now done with all drugs - and I am not comfortable getting marijuana for this person anymore. I am going to tell them "No" the next time they ask me for some, but there is a problem...my extreme anxiety that has me worried sick.
The person I got it for is very large. I am afraid if I tell him no he may hurt me in some way. Also, I have told him I might stop doing this before and he got very upset with me. I am afraid there will be a big confrontation when I tell him no. He also owns guns and knives and knows where I live. I am afraid he may come to my house, break in, and hurt my family and me or even kill us. (I know this sounds stupid, but I really worry about these things!)
What makes it even more difficult is that I used to be good friends with this person and still talk to them at work several times a week.
So...does anyone have any advice on how to say "No" to this person without getting too anxious? I am dreading the day he tries to give me money to get more marijuana for him (but no matter what - I am going to say no!). I am just so afraid of him and how to say it confidently. Also, I am still going to be working with this person until I find a new job (which I hope is sometime soon).
This is a serious post! Please help with any advice you can give me.
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A tree outside where I live is dying, seemingly from dog urine----with the bully in my building going out his way to not only have his dog urinate there but to have the dog urinate on the fence and sign I bought to try save the tree----and then slide the sign under my apt door.Turns out that was a TRIGGER for me----bullying and humialtion right out of high school. I didn't realize it at the...
Why do you feel that they may hurt you? As you stated, you used to be good friends with them. Is it a rational thought to think that they will really hurt you? Is it also possible that you lost your connection? I.E. they are dry or make something else up that is believable. Try and direct the reason for not being able to get it away, so it seems as though it's not your fault perhaps?
I suppose it is not really rational that they may hurt me...but this person is prone to mood swings. I have seen him curse at customers before. He also has gotten nasty with me once when he first started working with me (where I work it is very stressful and I asked him to do something and he blew up at me). He is just a very big person and I am very small...I suppose I am just afraid and it is the fear that is making me think these things. I have an idea to tell him this lie: that my mom turned me in for possession and that I can't do it anymore because I am on probation and the charges are serious. I think I will go with that lie.
A friend that I know used to get it for me from his source (a genuine dealer). The genuine dealer is not accepting more clients. So I just need to tell my co-worker "no" and go with the excuse that I am was turned in for possession and can't do it anymore.
You're post made me realize how exhausting this all was...so thank you!
If anyone has any other advice or suggestions, please let me know. I am open to hearing what others think about this.
His habit is his business and not yours. Trust me, he will not push the subject. You can always say you heard a rumor of random drug testing at your job. That'll shut him up in a hurry.
Good luck to you and stay clean. I wish you well.
If I was a female in this situation, I'd look for a picture of some big young tough looking guy, and I'd put his picture in a nice frame on my desk. Then when this guy at work asks you who it is just tell him "its a friend', and give a little sigh like your in love with him and stare at the picture for a few seconds, then walk away and say " he's my kind of guy, I just wish he wouldn't do all that karate fighting in the gym." Trust me, that will freak out Mr. Big Mouth. And you'll probably never hear another peep out of him. Because he sounds like stupid big mouth bully.
@kacc: thank you for the encouragement! :)
dont let him in your house, either.
how come this LOSER cant get his own grass...? THAT says everything; maybe other people avoid the gun/knife nutcase, too.
grass is supposed to mellow you out. guns/knives and grass dont sound like some 1960s hippy match; more charlie manson-ish.
I am going to go with saying that I lost my connection. I no longer need anymore advice. Thank you all to read and posted replies! :)