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Anyone else have this problem?

bayrabbit01
bayrabbit01
My problem (or my husband's problem) is that I can't sleep alone. I get up when he gets up...regardless of what time it is!! This gets him very upset with me...he feels that I should just be able to stay in bed and go back to sleep...but I can't sleep without him there, unless I am sick or something like that?? Is this weird?? Is this unhealthy??

Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated!!
LuckyEmpath
LuckyEmpath
I don't have this exact problem but I have always had issues with being alone. Specifically, dying alone. I think many people who suffer anxiety have a fear of being alone. Your fear is being alone in bed while sleeping - it's just more defined. My feeling is there is a part of you who feels safer sleeping when he is in bed with you. That he will protect you from anything or anyone who may try to cause you harm. It may also be that he can protect you from your dreams/nightmares. I wonder when this behavior started and why. Did something happen to you in your past while you were sleeping that frightened you? You don't have to answer me, just something for you to think about.

Is it weird? I don't think so because I feel there is a very good reason behind it.

Is it unhealthy? I'm not sure any of us here are capable of answering this. You have said it annoys your husband so it may be an unhealthy behavior for your marriage. Are you seeing a therapist? A good therapist will be able to help you find the cause of this behavior and help you modify it.

Take care