Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Ugh, I haven't felt this way for awhile but I'm really anxious right now about my husband's dad visiting later this week. It will be the first time anyone from my husband's family has visited us since we got married.
My father-in-law is pretty laid-back, but his girlfriend, who is also coming, is like Martha Stewart when she hosts so I guess I feel pretty inadequate compared to her. I'm already making a list of a million things (cleaning, redecorating, etc) to do before they come and it's stressing me out.
I'm also introverted and honestly, I just prefer to have no guests at all. I never feel like I can relax when I'm around other people. It doesn't help that we've visited a lot of family over the past year and it always takes me awhile to recover from the stress. Also, whenever I am around my husband's family, I can't shake the memories of all the drama caused by his ex every time I would come to town. She refuses to let go and move on and she wants to make sure everyone know it. She always finds some way to insert herself every time I'm around.
I think it will be better having them see us as opposed to me going there, but still. Also, my mother-in-law is coming for Christmas... not sure if I will get to relax at all until January. :(
Thanks for reading and letting me vent !!! Any and all suggestions or words of support are welcome!
My father-in-law is pretty laid-back, but his girlfriend, who is also coming, is like Martha Stewart when she hosts so I guess I feel pretty inadequate compared to her. I'm already making a list of a million things (cleaning, redecorating, etc) to do before they come and it's stressing me out.
I'm also introverted and honestly, I just prefer to have no guests at all. I never feel like I can relax when I'm around other people. It doesn't help that we've visited a lot of family over the past year and it always takes me awhile to recover from the stress. Also, whenever I am around my husband's family, I can't shake the memories of all the drama caused by his ex every time I would come to town. She refuses to let go and move on and she wants to make sure everyone know it. She always finds some way to insert herself every time I'm around.
I think it will be better having them see us as opposed to me going there, but still. Also, my mother-in-law is coming for Christmas... not sure if I will get to relax at all until January. :(
Thanks for reading and letting me vent !!! Any and all suggestions or words of support are welcome!
Anyway, I think I've never recovered from that experience so I always stress like crazy whenever I have guests, even though no one has ever been like that but her. Even my father-in-law's girlfriend is a very nice person, even though she is a great cook and homemaker herself.
I like what you said about separating my bad memories from futuristic thinking. I can't make everyone happy and I can't waste my life trying. And just because there was someone in my past who judged every speck of dust in my house, that doesn't mean every visiter will.