Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Hey, everyone. It's been a little while since I've been on here. But I need to vent, I guess.
A few days ago, my boyfriend ended our five-year relationship. It's not contentious - we both know it's the right thing to do, but that doesn't really help much. This is so, so painful, and I'm having a very hard time coping. We are such close friends, and depend on each other a lot for support. We live together, and are having to switch off sleeping other places, which only adds to the stress.
We live in a city with a high cost of living and limited housing options, so on top of being devastated and a constant wreck over this breakup, I'm filled with terrible anxiety over how long it might take him to find a new place and move out. On the one hand, I want to see him as much as possible before we have to cease contact for a while (which I can't even imagine). On the other, I know it will be easier to really begin grieving and getting through this once we aren't sharing space and don't have to think about when we'll see each other next. It's very painful for us to be in the same room, though it's hard to not seek it out.
I have Panic Disorder and a history of depression, and I'm afraid of how this complete life upheaval is going to affect my mind-state. I went through a very rough period this spring, from March through just last month, really, and now with this happening I just don't know what to do. My therapist moved too far for me to see, and I haven't had any luck finding a new one. I'm still taking an anti-depressant, and am trying to be militant about taking that. But I have such terrible anxiety over going to sleep and waking up, when the pain feels unbearable. Even during the day, it feels too had to breathe, and I don't know how I'll make it to the next minute.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.
A few days ago, my boyfriend ended our five-year relationship. It's not contentious - we both know it's the right thing to do, but that doesn't really help much. This is so, so painful, and I'm having a very hard time coping. We are such close friends, and depend on each other a lot for support. We live together, and are having to switch off sleeping other places, which only adds to the stress.
We live in a city with a high cost of living and limited housing options, so on top of being devastated and a constant wreck over this breakup, I'm filled with terrible anxiety over how long it might take him to find a new place and move out. On the one hand, I want to see him as much as possible before we have to cease contact for a while (which I can't even imagine). On the other, I know it will be easier to really begin grieving and getting through this once we aren't sharing space and don't have to think about when we'll see each other next. It's very painful for us to be in the same room, though it's hard to not seek it out.
I have Panic Disorder and a history of depression, and I'm afraid of how this complete life upheaval is going to affect my mind-state. I went through a very rough period this spring, from March through just last month, really, and now with this happening I just don't know what to do. My therapist moved too far for me to see, and I haven't had any luck finding a new one. I'm still taking an anti-depressant, and am trying to be militant about taking that. But I have such terrible anxiety over going to sleep and waking up, when the pain feels unbearable. Even during the day, it feels too had to breathe, and I don't know how I'll make it to the next minute.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.
Hope things go smoothly for you . hear to listen if you need someone
I'll also be needing to find new housing - just not as immediately. We currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with a mutual friend, and the management company says we have to give 60 days notice before we can break the lease. 60 days! Obviously we can't continue living together. So he's going to try to find new housing as soon as possible, and I'll have to use savings money (he's a grad student, his finances are much tighter than mine) to cover his rent for December and January before the roommate and I can move out. He and I can't afford the rent as just two of us, so we'll have to move as well. We just moved into this place in April, and I love everything about it... I'm so anxious about searching for a new place. And I feel awful that I'm "getting" our roommate... I wish there were two of him so that we could each have the support. I know I shouldn't feel guilty since it was his decision, but it's something that's hurting us both terribly and I wish I could be sure that he'll be alright.