Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I’ve been with my boyfriend for about four months now. He’s 20. I’m 19. He’s amazing and absolutely perfect for me but I’m constantly afraid that he’s going to dump me. He doesn’t show signs of it. He reassures me. I just know that one day I won’t be with him and that crushes me. I cry wondering how much longer I have with him. He doesn’t want to move in at the start of next school year because he has bad experiences with living with girlfriends. We’re very serious and spend almost every single day and night together. A couple months back he told me that he’s afraid he can’t love anyone because of his past relationships—however he did nonchalantly say we love each other to someone the other night. He doesn’t know that I’m constantly afraid. I feel dumb, I just don’t want to lose the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
Anticipatory anxiety is the worst! I suffer from that too, It's like we're always looking into the future and seeing a bad outcome. The other day, I was doing just what you're doing with a situation in my life.... seeing the worst case scenario. Then, I remembered something my late husband told me when I was freaking out about my daughter when she was very ill. He was always so calm about stressful situations. I asked him how he did it. He simply said, "I have hope. You need to have hope." Hope is a something we all need. You need hope and faith in your boyfriend. Live today and enjoy every minute with him. He sounds like a gem. Don't read into the future; you have no control over that. All you can do is love him today and be in the present moment with him. One day at a time and hope in the future is something we both need to practice together.