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tigeemilllk
tigeemilllk

I've always struggled with self image issues. I always felt humongous (I'm 5'6" and weigh 140 pounds) and extremely overwheight/unattractive for as long as I can remember ALWAYS comparing myself to the other girls/women I deemed above me. It's now getting worse and in the way of my relationship with my boyfriend. He loves me and has never done anything wrong by me but I feel like my insecurities and personal anxieties are ruining my relationship. He had ALWAYS wanted to be in a band and he now finally has the chance to be in one but I can't stop having anxiety attacks over it and just feeling completely upset over it as I feel he's going to leave me for someone else or cheat on me or simply just look at another girl with lust. I want to be supportive of him and want him to be happy but I'm not happy within myself at all because of this current situation and can't stop feeling defeated and wanting to either stop it from happening or leaving so he's happy without me. But I love him and he loves me and I don't want things to end. 

glitterbananas
glitterbananas
i also compare myself to other girls feeling very insecure about myself and i'm very self conscious about how my side profile is and how my butt looks and my belly looks.. i'm 135 pounds and also i just feel like everyone judges the way i look so i do the same thing and i also have very bad feelings when it comes to relationships... i get very paranoid thinking i'm not good enough and thinking they can do better if you ever want to talk i'm here because i totally understand
sylvia25
sylvia25
I struggle with the insecurities and how that can effect relationships. I want to be as pretty or as smart or as skinny as all of my boyfriends exs and I struggle with that a lot. I guess I don't value myself very much. I would say in your situation that he wants to be with you for a reason, and hopefully you can share your concerns with him. If you don't want things to end are they compromises that you two can make or a plan if he did want to be a part of the band?
light234
light234
Your boyfriend sees your inner qualities too, Like your personality and how nice you are. He loves you! How can you start loving yourself? I've struggled with this too, Think of your positive attributes, and build your confidence knowing that your boyfriend, God, and your family loves you unconditionally. Take care.
jannellerose
jannellerose
I feel you, I am the same way. I also have an issue with depending on him to make me happy, and then I get super angry when I feel like he lets me down. I am 5'7'' and my weight is solid but I still feel very insecure. He tells me how much I mean to him but it is kind of hard because he is only my second boyfriend but my first REAL boyfriend and what he likes just is not me. His type is shorter girls who are hispanic. I am mixed tall and I weigh 145 which is not bad for my height but still I get insecure. Social media does not help either because girls who do not like me or know about me follow him on his stuff and he follows them back and I am just like dude come on be on my side I unfollow everyone he absolutely does not like..... It is hard, what I have learned to do though is live for myself even though we are together. Get dressed up and take yourself out to dinner, go shopping, get your nails done, organize and even cleaning helps me. It does not replace the issues I have with him but exert that negative energy or thoughts into something positive. And if you are religious speak to God!!!