When I first started having sex with the person I'm with now, my emotions went into a crazy intensity-right after I orgasmed...I think it's just because of the release of endorphins.

Is that kinda what you meant?

I am like more in the lines of,,, ok is it ok to masturbate , should I... I am not dating so I mean masturbating. Then afterwards, I feel guilty that I did masturbate and this causes anxiety .

I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating. It allows you to have relief from sexual tension.

I hope you're able to enjoy yourself when you masturbate and aren't worried or anxious about it. It's PERFECTLY NORMAL and healthy.

Have you ever thought about why you feel guilty? Do you feel bad about it? That it's wrong?

I truly feel that it's ok to do and to do whenever you need to. I mean, within reason-you don't want to like get all cozy with yourself in public but certainly it's natural to explore your body.

u need to give your heart , mind and soul a major break . u r fulfilling a natural human need . better that u r doing what u r doing then having indiscriminate sex , please try to relax and realize u r normal and doing nothing wrong .

I've noticed I can't have orgasms because of anxiety.

From what you said in your second post, I'm getting that you're thinking a lot and therefore, you have anxiety? I think that's normal, and maybe therapy could help you out there! Of course, you'd have to be comfortable enough with a therapist for that... I've yet to be able to talk about sex/etc with a therapist lol.

But you're not doing anything wrong! Doesn't matter if you're masturbating, having indiscriminate sex, having sex within a relationship or marriage, whatever makes you happy and so long as you're being safe it's all good. But if you feel guilty, you might want to work on it because sex/masturbation should be a happy thing, not something that makes you feel ultimately sad.

For me orgasms don't make me anxious. I have sexual relations with a women i want to make her happy. the rest is icing on the cake, or a cherry on the sundae. As for masturbation it dpends on who you ask. And some who say it is wrong are themselves hypocrites. there are those within organised religion who from the pulpit teach that masturbation is wrong and twenty four hours later, if not sooner are sexually abusing children . Thanks but I'll settle for masturbation. I'm not hurting anybody and nobody is around. So I masturbate and feel better. It works for me and I was given a very strict upbringing about sexuality, masturbation, etcetra. which I no longer adhere to. But each person has to decide for themselves what is right and wrong about masturbation. And like you I'm not dating either.

I have my fears that is ok to masturbate and release the tension. Is God ok with me doing so. Why do I get anxious from having a orgasm which then ( not sure ) but am I getting the most pleasure from a orgasm if I am worried about something.

Its supposed to relax you Kevin so I'd have to say your probably not getting the most pleasure out of it because your so worried. Do some research for yourself. Find for me, in the Bible where it says "God said not to masturbate". When or if you think you've found it, post it here and we can talk about it. :) I think doing that will help ease your mind

like they said, your thinking too much..that will ruin it always..just do you you feel is right, and pleasurable to you......