I am blessed woth an understanding husband, but I know that I am bringing him down with my anxiety and depression. We would never part after 30 years together but I feel sorry sometimes that I am putting him through this stress. He says that I was understanding when he had problems--and I was--but his seem pale compared to mine. I just keep telling him how valuable he is to me. Hope this helps. --Gemstone

There is a group called "anxiety and relationships" so you should check it out.

I completely understand. Both myself and my partner have had issues with anxiety and it has definitely affected our relationship. My partner feels guilty that my problems were bought on by hers (!) but nothing is that simple. We're trying really hard to keep talking and sharing how we're feeling. If you talk about the thoughts that are making you anxious not only will that help you get some relief but it will help the two of you keep everything in the open. That gives your relationship the best chance.
If you're looking for some help and advice, I'm putting together a blog at panicrelief.co.uk that I'm hoping will be helpful for people. Take a look and let me know if i can help if any other way.
All the best
Tony
panicrelief.co.uk

My boyrfriend and I have been together a little over a year and he is great! My anxiety hasn't raelly been bad until the last 4 months or so. Its really hard on me and my boyfriend. Although he is very supportive of me, I feel terrible that I am bringin him down with this. I feel like if this doesnt get better it will tear us apart which is the last thing I would want. I love him more than anything. I just really hope my anxiety get under control soon!

definitely for sure. Anxiety and depression have affected my relationship. I highly believe you can change it, but you may need to reevaluate a few of your habits. It's hard but I think you have to determine how much you are willing to put into this relationship. I've been through counselling and I feel like I'm getting there with my anxiety, I recommend though if you want my advice, is to read this book called "The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris, it is EXCELLENT. Also if you want try researching your anxiety and educating your partner about anxiety, this may also help.

Bes of Luck!
Sam

I am lucky enough to have a very understanding boyfriend, but an ex boyfriend was not so understanding. He would throw it in face when he was angry. It all depends on the person and even if they might get a little tired of hearing about it or experiencing it with you, as long as they're patient, I think it will work out.

Anxiety isn't something you can just change, if we could, we wouldn't be here right now in this support group. Maybe when you feel anxiety, try to take a break some where away from your boyfriend and do breathing exercises to calm down and relax without "troubling" him every single time. But do seek his comfort if it gets really bad, that's what they're there for!! *hug*