If it's a good friendship, don't jack it up. Don't be the homewrecker. If you do have feelings for him and you act upon those feelings, there is a very good chance you could split them up, lose him as a friend and garner the wrath of his fiance, and there is no greater hell than a woman scorned. Pretty big pile of doo for someone who already has anxiety. That's throwing gasoline on the fire. If you respect him as a friend, keep it on the friendship level, keep those 'feelings' to yourself and let him marry his fiance or you could very wreak some emotional havoc you don't need. He is engaged, think about it, would you want someone doing that to you? Leave them be and work on your issues of your own existing anxiety, and you'll possibly find out that it wasn't love, but just infatuation. Use extreme caution and self control on this one, lest you do some severe collateral damage.

I'm just going to repeat what I said in the above post

(Don't judge me, i'm not trying to split them up or anything.. I just have feelings for him)

I have no intention of trying to split them up, Your response was judgmental and condescending.

Wow, that a tough one. I would think that infatuation occurs in the beginning of a relationship, which in your case would be the opposite since you apparently have known your friend for a long time. In my opinion, I would believe that we would think a lot about the person we love. If he is your best friend, I'm sure you have a special kind of love towards him, your best friend. It is my understanding that there are different types of love based on the relationship - a love for your child, a love for our parents, a love for our spouse.......you get what I mean. And with all of those loves, don't we think about the ones we love.....seems to me that we do. But I'm no expert. Just my opinion.

There's a saying for just such an occasion that always seems to ring true: Don't shit where you eat.

It's not judgmental, just honest, so maybe you'll get it through your head. You have those kind of feelings for your friend who is engaged to another woman. Use some common sense. Your feelings for him if acted upon could do the very thing you're not intending to do, especially if his intended finds out, and insists he longer has contact with you. Take it as you will, but do the right thing.

Perhaps you are realizing that things are going to change once he is married. He is not probably going to be your best friend as such anymore as his wife will be more of that role. I am being realistic here. I just feel things will change.

I think perhaps you are going through some kind of grieving maybe and you are afraid of losing your friend and how things were before the engagement.
(I like the way you say "currently" engaged instead of he's engaged. Using the word "currently" gives the indication that you are hoping it be a temporary situation rather than a permanent one.

Can you imagine yourself kissing this guy, having intimacy with him...are you attracted to him in this way? really deep down.

if he came to you right now and said that it was over with his fiance and he really wants to be with you in a romantic kind of way. Is that really what you would want?

Maybe this will help you to decipher what these feelings you are having.

I think that's it's because the dynamics of your relationship is going to change once he is married and that is why you have suddenly developed these feelings.

realistically I don't think many best friend friendships can be had with the opposite sex especially when one half eventually gets engaged and married. this is just my opinion. I know people will jump in say it is possible for opposite sex to be best friends. yeah maybe..but after marriage...probably not because the new spouse may not be so open and secure about it.

Your male best friend after he's married says "oh hunny I am going to the mall with michiev...ok see you later." yeah right...like that is going to happen.

If you really think that you love this guy..then you may have to keep away to save yourself from getting hurt and from hurting anyone else.