Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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ScaredSIlly31 06/03/2013

I have one child who is only 4 yrs old. I struggled for 5 long years to conceive. And so I am very over protective over her. If she does anything "weird" then I freak out and take her to the Dr or I call the nurse line.

I hate to be this way because I dont want my daughter to see how I am. I dont want her to be like me. I want her to be brave, strong and fearless over the stupid crap that I fear.

This anxiety doesnt allow me to enjoy these wonderful moments sometimes.

At times...she will be playing and my mind starts thinking negative thoughts. "What if she falls and breaks her arm" " What if a car drives thru my front yard" Crazy thoughts like that are what make me fearful and in turn do not let me enjoy life.

Righ now I have been really having some bad thoughts. To the point to where I dont sleep. She starts school next year...I think of the Sandy Hook incident, or the Oklahoma tornado.

I dont know how to stop this. It scares me. I am scared that I will keep them from enjoying their life because of me.

George70101 06/03/2013

If you want your daughter to be brave, strong and fearless, then you need to be the same way.

Starting school is your child's first step in developing the critical social, cultural and educational skills she'll need to succeed in life. This is also your first step in letting go, so she may grow.

HeatherCliff 06/03/2013

I understand you.

I think a psychiatrist could help you.

With Love,
heathercliff

deleted_user 06/04/2013

My daughter is in elementary school now and I've struggled with the thought that some guy is going to molest her. I simply don't let any guy be around my daughter alone. No guy, no matter how nice he is. Not even family. I try not to think about it.

rlb79 06/04/2013

I completely and totally relate to how you're feeling - I have a 7 year old daughter and just THIS MORNING while watching her walk into class I had a thought of "what if some horrible school incident happens like Sandy Hook" -- I had to catch myself but the thoughts are there. Also when she plays outside with friends, I find I'm the parent constantly saying "be careful, watch out, you're gonna fall, etc etc etc." -- Knowing in my mind that she needs to fall in order to learn. It's very hard and a tough balance....I have been trying really hard not to be the "helicopter mom" that's always hovering around her and not allowing her to grow as a human being on her own. You are not alone...

ScaredSIlly31 06/05/2013

Thank you all! rlb79 I feel like I wrote what you said.

It makes me feel horrible. Because I dont want to the cause of why she isnt having fun.

My husbands family is the only side that has kids. And when they all play I am the ONLY mom out there watching my child. They do make fun of me and talk shit about it. But I feel at ease when I am out there with her.

SUCKS!

rlb79 06/05/2013

Yep! That would be me.....the only parent watching like a hawk LOL....I really have tried backing off a bit and it is hard but I can see she really appreciates a little more freedom. I did explain to her that I'm not trying to ruin her fun and that I do trust her, I just want to protect her. But, I need to not go overboard which I've been guilty of.....

deleted_user 06/05/2013

Aw I'm here. It's always uneasy when starting new life events such as school and such. I'm a mother of 2 boys, both under two years old. I know the feeling but it does get better. Try Exercising.

rskb3 06/10/2013

I have 2 children my daughter is 12 and my son is 9. My daughter has always been and independent little cuss where my son is the complete opposite he has anxiety and doesn't like to be to far from mom and dad. You are not doing anything wrong by being protective of your daughter, your her mother that is what you are suppose to do. And if your in laws are talking shit about you for watching your children that is just stupid because they should be watching there children how irresponsible is that. You are usually more protective of your first born if you have more kids you will probably be more relaxed about it. It's true bad things can happen anywhere at anytime but it isn't fair to your daughter to keep her sheltered and not live and experience life.

ScaredSIlly31 06/18/2013

Thank you all for all the advise. I have started to try and let her be a little free lol. SHE ABSOLUTELY LOVES IT!!! I LOVE seeing her smile and enjoy the freedom haha . Even tho deep down inside its freakin killing me...but her laughter, her smile is so worth all my anxiety hahah

This is just the beginning...I really am trying. Again thank you all soooo much!

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