Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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221B 07/28/2016

My anxiety is in danger of affecting my personal relationship. I find myself constantly wanting to ask for validation that he really wants to be with me (it's a long distance relationship...which is new for me). How do I keep this in check and trust in the evidence right in front of me that he does want to be with me? Does anyone else have this problem?

Minidogs2 07/28/2016

It is a common problem. Because of our past experiences it is hard to trust that someone really wants us. Sounds like you need to focus on liking yourself and believing that you really are worth his attention. Regardless of this man, do you feel good about yourself? Also are you saying that you have no reason to mistrust him such as him being interested in someone else at the same time?

gettingitstraight 07/28/2016

this happens I was in a long distance relationship with who I still consider the most beautiful amazing woman I ever met but because she was like that I was always worried about the same thing we ended up ending it long distance was just too much of a factor for us both, you just have to go with the flow and trust he does openly talk about how you feel and hopefully he will be able to help, I have a friend who was in a long distance relationship she lived in florida he was in Nevada she and I were good friends and she used to ask me the same things I told her she has to talk to him and if he likes you as much as he should and you like him it will work out, to end the story my friend has been married to this guy for 3 years and they are very happy together

Cakeasaurus 07/30/2016

I have that issue sometimes too and my boyfriend and I live together. In my experience, it's not the distance that triggers this anxious response. For me, it's usually something else that's going on. Like I'll start asking my boyfriend if he actually loves me when I'm stressed about money. Whenever I screw something up. When I forget to do something. It's rarely ever truly about the relationship itself.

As for how to deal with it, I find that explaining why I'm asking him if he wants me helps the situation a lot. He's not a mind reader. All he knows is that I'm acting insecure. Sometimes it helps to explain that anxiety can cause insecurities that occasionally make us question our relationships.

Side note: I love your username!

bridgie101 07/30/2016

I am not even prepared to try having another relationship after the last one. Yes, I abdicate myself to them. I don't feel wanted, I am anxious, I overthink... I move too fast to please others and tangle myself up. And them.

Medication helped enormously but I have weaned off that over the last couple of years. I'm thinking I should go back on.

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