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anxiety about alcohol

annemarie19
annemarie19

So 2 years ago, I was in an abusive relationship. The guy I was with drank a lot and became both physically and verbally abusive to me. I still have physical scars from where I was hit. I'm with a new guy now and he is amazing. The problem is that I am so sensitive about alcohol now and get upset when he drinks. He just turned 21 and wants to go out and drink just 1 or 2 beers, but not get drunk. Just drink casually, like how every normal guy does.But even the thought of that upsets me and makes me feel insanely anxious. My current boyfriend knows everything I've been through and he's trying to be understanding, but he's upset with me because he feels like I'm just comparing him to the guy from my past and I'm upset because I cant deal with it and still am kinda traumatized from what I went through. And we keep getting in fights and I want to trust him and I want him to be happy but I don't know how to deal and just feel sick to my stomach with anxiety from it

Pignulotta
Pignulotta
I think you are right to feel that way about it. Alcohol, even in small doses, is not good for the body. How often does he drink ? It's a bad habit to get into, and you know all too well what it can lead to. Try to avoid sounding like you are telling him what to do or not do, mention to him your concerns, but in a calm way. Also, here is something I've learned - try to let him think it was his idea to cut down. Let him think HE was the one who made that decision.
little
little
Hello,
You may need to write down some notes to yourself about triggers even though you know your anxiety occurs when you know he is about to drink. It is important to refrain from comparing your old boyfriend to your new boyfriend because you will continue to do that in each relationship you enter. Remember he is 21 and he needs to figure out things for himself just as you need to figure out if he is really as amazing as you say he is. My suggestion would be for you to take note of why you stayed with someone for 2 years that abused you and compare the reasons why you are with this guy and see if that relieves any of the anxiety.