Anxiety Support Group
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A few weeks ago my husbands uncle went into the hospital. He was having trouble swallowing. They put him on a feeding tube. He was 88 and had severe alzheimer's. A few days past and they took him off the feeding tube. He still could not swallow. It was the wife and sons decision to not hook the feeding tube back up, and to just let him starve to death. I thought this was outrageous! Anyway a few days and he passed away. The wife and son decided to creamate him and there would be no funeral or even a get together to honor him. They did not even post and obit. My husband is heart broke. He says it's like his life meant nothing to them. He owned a business in Dover,DE for many years. Many people new and loved him and will not even be aware of his passing.I don't understand how they can be so cold. I would understand no funeral if money was a factor but it is not. And a get together does not cost much. An obit is free. I just don't get it.
End rant thanks for listening and any replies.
End rant thanks for listening and any replies.
One of my cousins said a formal funeral was a big help to get her thru her mom's death.
Here's my story....very recently, my sister in law, fell, then died unexpectedly. Her wishes were clear to her kids NO funeral, NO funeral home, wake etc. Scatter her ashes once the snow melts. so, yes, it was weird but each person reacts to grief, loss and others personal wishes individually. it was not what her brother expected she would want.
My dad had his obit written (and it's over$500. to print in each newspaper), had his music picked out, etc, wanted a big church send off. My mom wants NOTHING except a funeral mass. Doesn't want anyone to visit who"didn't bother to visit in life."
For me, a funeral, box, is a big waste to be stared at. Bring me my flowers in life, spend 10 minutes to visit when I can still enjoy. when I'm dead, I won't care. And when I can't enjoy my coffee, ice cream or cookies, I don't want to be tube fed. I've given my kids these instructions over and over. I can only hope they liste
Thank you Pollybizz, here the obit in paper is free.