Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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pictureguy 01/23/2009

Does anyone else have a hard time in close relationships. My anxiety is always worse around my girlfriend, no matter which girlfriend I have had,its always the same. Bad thoughts invade my brain, think I shiouldnt be with her, do I really love her if I have these thoughts. Drives me crazy but I have also got this way with family members just feeling weird or strange sensations . Yet when at work sometimes I will feel normal, I give up.

Shai 01/23/2009

i get those feelings...

usually, i feel like i shouldn't be with him...or that he deserves better. just...a lot of bad thoughts about myself... =/

deleted_user 01/23/2009

We all have those intrusive thoughts. They are linked to strong emotions and can be explosive. Just know those thoughts are not correct. Our left side of our brain is like a computer and has a model of us it supports.

It will bring up our insecurities and self doubt, increase our worrying and induce panic.

Your left brain makes judgements all day. that is it's job. It even fills in the gaps where things are missing.

Just observe the thoughts and give them no energy and they will pass. Each time you do it , it becomes easier and more effective. If you fill your day with positive things at least your attitude will improve.

good luck

Barr62 01/23/2009

those thoughts are negative thoughts ..those are the kind of thoughts you dont want to deal with, im sure trillions of people out there have those thoughts , i kick those kind outta my head and change it all to a Posative thought right away

deleted_user 01/24/2009

I think a lot of people can relate to what you are saying. I also think sometimes we are afraid of getting hurt emotionally and automatically are brains go into thoughts of self defense. That is when all the nagging questions keep repeating themselves. As for family well sometimes if you have been judged by them it too can put you on your guard and give you strange feelings of fear, being smothered or obligated to have to do things you don't want to really do. At work nothing is expected of you but for you to do your job and go home. Much easier to deal with then family or relationships. Just take it one day at a time and even though it gets old when the same old feeling keep arising and you are questioning if you should be with a person, I also think you should listen to that inner voice as perhaps it is giving you a warning that this may not be the right person for you. Time will tell.
Anyway take things slow and see if you can get yourself to relax a bit more when in self doubt and see what happens:)

deleted_user 02/16/2011

I realize this is a really old post- but I'm just wondering how you're doing now?? This is the issue that I am currently struggling with and could use some advice if you have any?? Thanks.

deleted_user 02/16/2011

I agree with LizBitMar I would liek to know how ur dealing with it and some advice as well.

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