My fiance and I have been together over 4 years now, I just recently got him to talk to his doctor about his anxiety at work. I work for him along with his two sons. It has gotten so bad lately that he can't talk right. He says the words come to mind just fine but get slurred on their way out. He has anxiety meds but won't take them very often for fear of developing an addiction (per the docs advice).

When we get home, he's completely different. Patient, kind and frankly the man I fell in love with. He's aware of his issues and his doc wants him to see a psychiatrist. He's unsure about that. I also got him a gym membership to help him blow off some of the excess stress causing the anxiety.

Problem is this.....everyday that I go to work his treatment of me (and his sons) is just getting worse and worse. The more he gets worked up...the worse it gets. Shouting, cutting us off when we try to talk...then yelling at us because he didn't know what we were trying to say. Running around in a panic unable to really process what's going on. I know as a business owner there is a lot of stress. But I don't know how to help him or me. I get so angry throughout the day that I just want to scream. Then after a relaxing ride home by himself he's fine and has absolutely no clue why I'm mad.

I have had anxiety plenty but not like this. I feel like I'm becoming his enabler just wanting to keep him happy. I was hoping someone could give me a different perspective. I thought maybe if you are dealing with anxiety and panic episodes like this, what would you want a loved one to do? Any help would be great thank you!!