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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Brittanyg16
Brittanyg16
matt, my boyfriend, is home from basic training and i should be happy. and i was when he got home 2 weeks ago. im happy being with him but lately i have been feeling hopeless about our relationship. idk why. how can i love someone and be so happy but at the same time be so hopeless?? i dont get it. im thinking its b/c hes going to college soon and im still in highschool. i guess im just scared. but one thing that i worry about is me. i dont worry about him cheating on me or finding another girl and breaking up with me. i worry that i will get swept off my feet by some other guy or something. is that wierd to worry about myself? i feel bad for being like this now that he is home. i thought i was done being sad. i just talked to matt about his last nite. and now this morning i work up at 6 and cried till 7. now im up and me and matt are talking on msn about all this stuff. *sighs* why do i get this way? is it normal to feel this way? im so confused and i hate being like this. why do i do this??? i think the worst possible things and put myself in the worst scenerios. how can i change myself? or my way of thinking? why cant i just be happy? ive got great family friends and a great boyfriend. why am i sad and upset? maybe its just one of those days idk. please someone give me some advice here.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sounds like you may have some depresson sneaking up on you. Very often depression and anxiety can go hand in hand. Bringing all this up to your doc might be a good idea. best to try and get it under control before you end up making decisions you might not normally make if you were feeling more like yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you're awfully young to be putting relationship pressure on yourself. i wouldn't try too hard to "hold onto him"- it makes things too complicated. and... i mean... do you REALLY have a reason to be sad? look how bad some people have it, you know?

also, i wouldn't worry about it too much. i understand what mkbrn is saying about doctors, and that they are a lot of help at times... but sometimes we rely on them too much... going to the doctor about every little thing gets addictive and allows yourself to feel like you really, really need help, when actually you're situation isn't bad at all !!! and its pretty rare these days for a doctor to say you're okay and nothing is wrong with you, because they're the ones making money, so be careful. try to stay calm. don't make a mountain out of a molehill ( i do this a lot)... anyway, hope this helps :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are probably suffering from mild depression or pms. You should see how you feel in a few days, and if you are still feeling sad for no real apparent reason, then talk to your doctor.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ahh I remember these days....well they weren't too long ago...I was excactly like you Brittany. Do you regularly have situations like this? Relationships are very stressful...It's ok to have these thoughts...You are most likely just afriad of change. I am so afriad of change tooo...it's normal! But, you should remember that you are young and you will go throught LOTS of changes. I recommend writing down what you are thinking...sometimes it will help you to put order to your thoughts. It seems as though you really like your boyfriend but you know it won't work out when he leaves for college. It seems as though you may have slight anxiety, it's tough for you to only think abuot the present...because that is really all that matters. You are thinking too much into the future. I recommend living for today and not thinking so much about tomorrow. Things will work out. I recommend always remembering the quote that "everything happens for a reason!!"
Marigolds
Marigolds
My favourite quote is "90% of the things you worry about, never happen" Don't worry about trying to change yourself or your way of thinking. The suggestion to wait a day or two is a good one. You will probably feel differently then. Could there be some pms happening here ?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Brittany,I am old enough to be your dad so this advice is coming from an "ancient" 44 yearold. Relationships are stressful, they always have been. It sounds like your situation is made worse by a slight deppression creeping in. I wish I could tell you that chances are you and Matt will stay together until you get old and toothless but I can't. It may or it may not happen. One way or the other you have to embrace life as it happens. There will never be another time in your life like this. Having some of these feelings for the first time it really can be wonderful if you let it. Don't put so much pressure on your self to hold everything together you may fall for someone else or he may as well you are both very young and just starting your lives. Enjoy the ride. Remember don't sweat the small stuff. Secondly remember 99.9% of everything IS small stuff. Good Luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
You both look happy together in the photo, make some plans to keep in touch with him while he is away (breaks).
Abscense makes the heart grow fonder, so try not to fear a loss, that probably wont happen.
Keep the Faith, and Look after yourself. Peace