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2 years of climbing

pandabeers
pandabeers
i had a two year relationship that recently ended, most of the time i was getting better because of her. i also spent alot of time making myself a better person. i feel like this is falling apart again i always do very well when i am with some one i trust who trusts me and cares about me some one i can talk to. i did so well i use to use this site 2 years ago but i was getting all the support i needed so i stopped using the forums. i was doing great, i decided i should get a career or go to a trade school. thats when the relationship came to a stop point, since then i have tried my hardest, i push everyday to get by, really doesnt seem like enough. and every job interview and every school i visit, it all just seems to crumble and theres no one to go home to and talk to about it, (long distance relationship, so we talked on skype and phone)
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
I am sorry you are hurting right now--you need to take some time and just get yourself in a good place again--without a relationship--focus on yourself and how to deal with the anxiety. You can do it....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am new but so agree with Hyperpgal you need to find yourself again and fine the happy place in your life without a relationship. Its going to be hard at first we have all been there, but in the end you will be so much happier with yourself again. Sometimes in life we need the negative things to happen for us to find the positive again. Good Luck
Jeff-Gonzalez
Jeff-Gonzalez
I lost what I thought was my high school sweetheart a while back and I know exactly what you are going through. It's hard to find yourself after you loose someone. Best advice I can offer is to just take some time for yourself. It is hard to find a job at the moment but believe me, once you find that one opportunity it'll be smooth sailing from then on. Be patient and know that not everything is as bad as it seems. You will overcome.
JudyFZ
JudyFZ
Sorry you are going through such a hard time. It is terrible, I know, to get over a failed relationship. Two years is a pretty long time and it will definitely take some time to fully grieve and move on. They say it takes half the time of the relationship to move past it. So, one year of missing this person and feeling sad and bereaved. But it won't be constant. Eventually, you will experience longer and longer periods where you don't think of her but are just living in the moment.

Let your feelings out to a counselor or journal. Write letters to her, but don't send them, of course. I think these things will help. In the meantime just keep yourself busy and find things you enjoy.

At some point, you may want to get rid of everything that reminds you of her if you can, and fill your life with the things you used to do or have before you met her. You were a complete, self-sufficient person before the relationship and you can be that again. Hang in there!