Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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july30babe
july30babe
What are you supposed to say or feel when people say there is no reason for you to have anxiety and depression; that there are people in the world that have it much worse. Or worse yet, they look at you and say, "you've got a good life, job, etc... there's no reason for you to have anxiety. :(
chelleleigh72
chelleleigh72
I would tell them not to judge a book by it's cover and that when they have walked a mile in your shoes then they can say something . I would tell them not everyone handles things the same way. .
CherylMc
CherylMc
I've told people, that while it is true there are others in worse situations, it doesn't make your situation any better. We all have are own battles to fight. Just because ours are internal, it doesn't mean they are any less of a struggle. Just focus on what is upsetting you and find your own path through it. We are all stronger than we think.
bridgie101
bridgie101
It's just a sign of idiocy. You can't really communicate with them, because they haven't got the concepts.

I mean, it's like saying when your leg is sawn off that you shouldn't complain because someone else got both legs sawn off. There's always someone off worse than you, isn't there. It's just the dumbest thing I can think of for anyone to say.

What I do wonder though, is if it's what they use to keep themselves going. You don't know if they have anxiety, or depression, and these trite 'ism's are what they use to stay above ground themselves.

or, of course, it will depend on what you are complaining about. In fact, it's best not to complain to anyone who doesn't actually understand. When you have anxiety it sticks you in a cognitive loop, and you can complain about the same silly thing every day for a year. This is very boring for other people. And also, the first five times they might have been understanding and nice - but by time no. 15 (you don't remember prior instances, part of this cognitive loop thing) they're getting a bit sick of it and the advice is becoming less and less loving and caring.

You have to learn silence. Endure in silence. I personally think it's better for you, because it puts pressure on you to increase in size. But of course you can always talk to someone who is understanding - that's just as good for you as silence amongst those who aren't. Just don't try to teach anyone anything, or get them to understand if they don't. If they could, they already would.