Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I am having a lot of difficulties right now, and I don't know which to address first. I am unable to afford to actually visit a therapist, so I am asking for opinions here.
My marriage is declining, I am not happy with myself, so I know that it's not all his fault, but his lack of desire to help fix it is exhausting. We do absolutely nothing together, he comes home from work, and goes straight out to the garage until he is ready for bed. Our house is a non-smoking house, and he can smoke in the garage, so I know that is part of it, but really that is no excuse to not spend time with me. I am asthmatic and can't handle being around the smoke, so me going to the garage for an extended amount of time is out of the question. Sex? What is that? Not for the lack of my trying. We used to have it quite often, and now a once a month morning quickie maybe. He says it's not my weight, he's been checked by the doctor, so no issues there, the only other answer is his alcohol consumption, or he really does have a problem with my weight. I have lost 25 lbs over the past few months, but all of my other issues are contributing to my uncontrolled binge eating, I think
I can't keep on track with anything, and just feel like crying all the time and giving up. All of what is going on is starting to affect my daily work life, I can't focus at work, I just want to go home, go to bed, and cry myself to sleep. I can't even relax at home because of 3 adult children contributing to the stress. Nowhere to run to!! I am constantly anxious and feel like my heart is going to beat right out of my chest, my emotions are all over the place. My mind won't stop, it keeps me up all night tossing and turning, thinking and worrying about things.
Obviously I've not been diagnosed with anything in particular, but I feel as though I have depression, anxiety, OCD, and panic disorder. I want to work on whatever it may be, but I don't know which to address first. I am going to go back to church which I haven't done in a very long time, in hopes that it will help, but what else is there that doesn't require $$. Do I join Overeater's Anonymous? I'm also going to try taking Nia classes for a way to clear my mind. I have downloaded some audio books on overcoming anxiety, etc.., which I know will help in the long run, but I need some type of relief now before I totally lose control. Please offer me some suggestions.
My marriage is declining, I am not happy with myself, so I know that it's not all his fault, but his lack of desire to help fix it is exhausting. We do absolutely nothing together, he comes home from work, and goes straight out to the garage until he is ready for bed. Our house is a non-smoking house, and he can smoke in the garage, so I know that is part of it, but really that is no excuse to not spend time with me. I am asthmatic and can't handle being around the smoke, so me going to the garage for an extended amount of time is out of the question. Sex? What is that? Not for the lack of my trying. We used to have it quite often, and now a once a month morning quickie maybe. He says it's not my weight, he's been checked by the doctor, so no issues there, the only other answer is his alcohol consumption, or he really does have a problem with my weight. I have lost 25 lbs over the past few months, but all of my other issues are contributing to my uncontrolled binge eating, I think
I can't keep on track with anything, and just feel like crying all the time and giving up. All of what is going on is starting to affect my daily work life, I can't focus at work, I just want to go home, go to bed, and cry myself to sleep. I can't even relax at home because of 3 adult children contributing to the stress. Nowhere to run to!! I am constantly anxious and feel like my heart is going to beat right out of my chest, my emotions are all over the place. My mind won't stop, it keeps me up all night tossing and turning, thinking and worrying about things.
Obviously I've not been diagnosed with anything in particular, but I feel as though I have depression, anxiety, OCD, and panic disorder. I want to work on whatever it may be, but I don't know which to address first. I am going to go back to church which I haven't done in a very long time, in hopes that it will help, but what else is there that doesn't require $$. Do I join Overeater's Anonymous? I'm also going to try taking Nia classes for a way to clear my mind. I have downloaded some audio books on overcoming anxiety, etc.., which I know will help in the long run, but I need some type of relief now before I totally lose control. Please offer me some suggestions.
It sounds as if there are a lot of issues in your life that are troubling you. When we are under a lot of stress, our minds tend to be unable to handle it all, and we can become depressed and anxious. Are you able to see a family doctor to start out with, and see if you may need some kind of help for depression and anxiety? Sometimes starting with an anti-depressant can help. But if you are not able to, or are uncomfortable with doing that, I understand.
I hear that you feel that your marriage is declining, you are unhappy with yourself, exhausted, worried about your weight, concerned about your husband's alcohol consumption, frustrated with your intimate life, concerned about your binge eating, you often feel like crying and feel like giving up, you are anxious, having trouble sleeping, and you are worried.
I understand totally. All of these things combined are too much to try to solve all at once, or all alone.
You mentioned Overeaters Anonymous. They have a wonderful program of recovery (and it is free) that starts with a 12 step program that is spiritual, and can be applied to all areas of your life, not just issues with weight. I highly recommend it as a starting place to find some peace of mind, friendship and some comfort and hope for all the things you are facing. Also, consider seeing a doctor to help with depression and anxiety.
I have been through almost everything you are going through. Please know that there is hope, and help, and things can get better. Take one day at a time, one moment at a time. If you need someone to talk to, just let me know. I am willing and able to listen.
My prayers are with you. You are not alone.
Yas