Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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Why Do I Do That

ma248
ma248

Why? Why does the littlest thing bother me? Why does that little thing that shouldn't bother me soon control my actions? Why do I get mad when people say "calm down" or "it's not a big deal"? Why does everyone tell me i'm great or amazing or worth it when I'm not? All I want to do is puch and kick and take all my anger out on that little thing that bothers me. When I get mad others get mad at me because, I should have been able to control the situation. I. Can't. Control. It. It's a part of me that I need to know how to manage. My anger got worse after my parents got divorced. I took it all out on my brother and I'm sorry. He deserves better than me for a sister.

geo70
geo70
1. A response to someone going against one of your core beliefs?
2. Pain you cover up by acting out in anger?
3. Fear of losing control?

For me, fear of losing or not having control is probably more true than the others.
Pain from the past that never got resolved is most likely the fuel for my anger, of course in my case I was taught by my dad and mom that anger is the default response to most situation, so learned behavior plays a role here also.

Probably starting with the divorce and working backward with a therapist on your anger would help.
darkside2276
darkside2276
believe me you are not alone, i too feel that way sometimes...its the triggers, work place, work, people, situations, things...dealing w/PTSD is hard in itself...dealing with things and situations that comes w/people is harder still..there is so much damage that I have done to myself over the years from not able to control...i never took it out on anyone else but self...thats what hit me the most...i am trying to verbalize and express but it's hard as mind is conditioned to one thing only! talk to your therapist or friends who might understand...that does help.